Alcoholic Wife. The breaking point.

Good lord. Two and a half bottles of wine in one night? I'm certainly not down on drinking, but holy shit.

Best of luck to you, ex. You seem like a good dude.

 

Yes, she did.

Best decision she's made in three years.

 

Best of luck, ex. You've shown yourself to be a good man through your posts here (and that's a tough thing to say to a jayhawk), and it looks like all your ducks are in a row.

 

Ball's in your court now, and you've got all your time outs.

And as you know, we're here.

 

Ex,

Sending you good vibes from Cali. I'm sorry it has come to this but it sounds like you've prepared yourself well for this day. Don't let her bullshit detract you from doing what is absolutely right for your kids.

We're all thinking about you.

 

Try as best as you can to be clinical about this, ex. Smart and rational and calm. Especially when you're up against drunk and crazy. She will use anything she can against you, so no nasty texts, no rage, nothing that looks anything like instability. Judges want kids to go to the stable place. Act the rock, be the rock.

 

What he said, ex. High road will be the winning road here.

 

Can't offer anything new other than join the others in wishing you luck and thinking of you. It's a cliche, but this hasn't killed you and you will emerge from this ordeal stronger.

 

What kind of wine was it last night?

 

Which reminds me, you need to block her from any and all social media accounts you have. If there are any remotely praiseworthy posts about her, take them down. (My ex didn't do this until after the trial. Boy did she ever looked thrilled on the witness stand reading through all the posts she made about what a good, caring father I was.)

And unless it catches fire, don't spend the night anywhere but your house.

 

I have nothing to ease that pain. Telling my son was the worst day of my life. Just be strong and let them know you love them and aren't going away. And as tempting as it is, never speak ill of her to your kids.

You can do this. It's going to be ok.

 

Yeah. I went through it at age 9. Awful day. But I got by it within a week.