Why Minorities Seem "Over-sensitive" about stereotypes and slights

I thought you picked up on themes better than that. Guess I was wrong.

What’s she’s saying is that it’s not just kids. Guess what, the grown ups do it and it doesn’t stop. The boy picked last? Guess what he grows up and walks in the room and he’s in the mainstream. Gave you too much credit.

You grow out of awkwardness, you don’t out grow your skin color.

 

Yeah, grow a pair, Kelly Tran!

 

Very well put, qt, in this statement and your first one. YankeeFan has no business telling you our Kelly Tran about the experience of Asians in this country. Neither do I. The difference is that I understand that fact.

 

Actually, you are disputing and belittling what Kelly Tran and qtlaw are saying about their experiences. Perhaps you aren't doing it with some sort of malicious intent, but when you argue with what they are saying, you are disputing it. When you dismiss it as something that is part of the norm, you are belittling it.

You are essentially arguing that racism isn't a problem. When a person is marginalized, or treated as other, due to that person's race, that is racism. As I posted earlier, I'm not surprised that you didn't get that, but I am disappointed.

 

Racism is a problem.

Bullying is a problem.

Ms. Tran's experience is not unique to Asian-American immigrants.

Growing up is hard.

 

If Kelly Tran can't take it, she's the one with the problem.

 

Not at all what I said.

 

I don't wish to belittle the Asian-American experience. I am sure they are made to feel like outcasts. But I also know, and YF was quite correct on this point, there are many non-minorities who are pigeonholed and stereotyped, and not just in their youth. So yes, I get a little testy when it's assumed to be a singular experience for some.

 

That's why I'm hyper-sensitive about statements regarding the LGBT community in particular, to the point where I have no sense of humor about "jokes" that I consider even slightly offensive.

 

She didn't say her experience was unique to Asian-American immigrants. That was actually your argument, blaming the challenges she has faced on Star Wars fans being assholes rather than seeing there are issues any Asian-American might face.

Growing up is hard. Growing up as part of a minority can be harder. Also, the issue isn't just what happens to children. It is how adults are treated as well.

You claimed you weren't disputing or belittling her experience as an Asian American, but that's exactly what you did. It would be nice if you showed the integrity to at least admit that part.

 

You're missing the point. That experience of being pigeonholed and stereotyped is different when it is driven by race. That is the true root of bigotry, to marginalize someone due to that person's race, gender, sexual preference, sexual identity or religion.

 

My Asian-Canadian friends say that they are constantly asked "Where are you from" which keeps them feeling 'other' in a way fat people or kids who where glasses don't.