I lost another friend

I contacted them last summer. They contacted the career counseling office. They said they'd get back to me. They never did. That's another pet peeve of mine. If you can't or don't want to do something, it's OK to say no. In spite of what you might think, it won't hurt my feelings a bit.

I suppose I could try again.

Not sure, if that guy would give me another chance. Last fall, I worked with another career counselor whom I found more helpful. I redid my resume and dusted off my Linkedin page, making the changes she suggested. I got a few interviews from it, so I guess that was a step in the right direction.

I mentioned my misgivings about the other guy to her and she understood them. She also said sometimes going with someone in the family or a family friend isn't a good idea.

 

You suppose you could try again? It's not unreasonable to think your name was inadvertantly lost in the shuffle.... Why won't you try harder? Why didn't you contact your alma mater again?

 

I just assumed they couldn't help me.

Edit, I just looked at the web site and from the looks of it, they don't offer any sort of career counseling for alumni, just networking events and talks and things like that.

 

@Smallpotatoes, I don't know where you're from. Probably someplace where they don't end their sentences in prepositions. The Old South side of my family is big on appearances and manners. My father was from a completely different culture and he believed in being open and friendly and sometimes excruciatingly honest. His cockeyed optimism (and abundance of melanin) gave Mama's people fantods!

Here's the thing about Dad: He had a real good idea of what he could and couldn't do. If something was in his wheelhouse, he went for it. It got him two offers at graphic design houses that students from far more prestigious art schools would have killed for. He didn't go for either of those places even though my mother was perfectly willing to live the life of an artist's wife and frankly, I was happy to have all the art supplies I could knick from his workspace. His big limitation was trying to live up to what other family members wanted him to be. That's a whole nother story and it's after eleven here and that little Chillhop raccoon keeps yawning and making me sleepy, so...another time for that.

My point is, you do have some limitations. We all do. It's weird, but this tearing down of our social fabric is also a sign that we have a chance to reinvent ourselves. This is absolutely not the time to roll over and say you're done. You're not. If you have the energy to get on here and argue and chat, you have something left in you to fight for your life. You have strengths beyond the ones that might have defined you before. You also have a little bit of wiggle room to find your way even if it's in a different lane.

Keep swimming, keep swimming, keep swimming.

And here's that little raccoon. You might enjoy spending some time in his dorm room.

 

Not complaining about this, just relating an experience. Today at work I drove two brand-new, off-the-truck Cadillac Escalades. Both ran out of gas after driving them for a mile or two.

 

I think that's why, whenever you buy a new car, they throw in the first tank of gas for free.
Were you taking them to get gas when you ran out?

 

I wonder if the transmissions are bad.

 

Your brother and the counsellor were correct. Leaving an interview early is ridiculous, these are all learning moments whether you get the job or not.

 

We were taking them from a lot off site to headquarters a few miles from there. There are gas pumps at headquarters but not at the lot, which was once the site of a dog track.

 

Not sure I agree. I just simply did not have the knowledge necessary to answer the questions. At that point do you just recite the alphabet?.Say "My name is Elmer J. Fudd, millionaire I own a mansion and a yacht"?

If it were an in-person interview, I'd be wasting the interviewer's time.

And I did learn something. The job wasn't what I thought it was and they were looking for someone who was a trained teacher, which I am not.

 

You’re right. Just keep doing what you’re doing.

 

I get it. You have a problem with me. You don't suffer fools gladly and in your estimation, I'm a fool.

So why waste your time responding to anything I say?