Petrino - not riding solo (and fired at Louisville)

Amen. I've been married 20 years come October, and like 99 percent of the men from ages 22-42, I've had moments where I'm sure I could have pulled the trigger and initiated or pursued an affair. Things haven't always been starry-eyed love. There are times I wished we had more sex, and I'm sure there are times she wishes we could communicate more or I'd help more with the kids, etc.

But even at the worst point in our marriage (which, I admit, wasn't too bad by any stretch), any thought of being unfaithful was quickly drowned out by the pain that my wife would feel if she knew I could even consider that. I couldn't live with myself if I knew I caused her that pain.

Maybe I'm not doing it right ...

 

Obviously, you didn't have cornfields or a Barnes and Noble nearby.

 

I love the fact that "BurnsWhenIPee" wrote that eloquent post.

 

Well, if he isn't cheating, then why the burn?

 

Is that B&N out where the woods got heavy?

 

Yeah, and the parking lot was where he was out in the back seat of his '60 Chevy

 

I could debate this with you, but mostly, I want to thank you for the honest answer, and for not being offended by the question.

 

Booo! We had a good Seger-jack going

 

I'm not debating any of that. I'm not saying sex is a cure all for other problems.

But, in OpenHeart's previous posts, she's said she loves him. She wants it to work. But, she's described the relationship as more of a friendship.

I guess there is probably a lot more to it. But, sex/intimacy is one of the big things that is missing. Otherwise, you are just roommates/co-parents. Sometimes, there is something to be said for just ripping each others clothes off, dropping all inhibitions and bitterness, and just fucking each other's brains out.

Intimacy can be re-ignited. It's probably the easiest part to fix.

 

No problem. When you posted in my original thread, I took it as a sincere attempt to offer a suggestion that might help. In some other situations, maybe simply adding more sex to the equation would fix things. In ours, it's more of a "How do we get to a point where we actually WANT TO have sex with each other again?" dilemma.

 

This is the greatest thread in the history of the past year.

Fuck bitches, get money.

I have nothing more to add.

 

Quandary [/ducking]