Been out of town for the past week and saw several newspapers; also read the hometown newspaper online. I was a bit surprised that almost all of them kept the word in the story, although no newspaper used it in a headline. Standards certainly have changed in this regard. A very good copy editor with my former employer let "pissed off" slip into sports copy about 25 years ago and received a stern talking-to, followed by a memo to the staff from the sports editor about the use of "swear words." Most papers probably wouldn't have a problem with it now.
Given I've seen The Washington Post, Politico, CNN, etc. all use it in a headline, it's pretty safe to say all of those people weren't immediately fired for doing so. But I know that won't stop you from thinking that.
It's my assumption that most members here don't work for WaPo, Politico and CNN. Try that at the Corpus Christi Caller Times and see what happens to your ass.
One would hope — although, certainly, it doesn't happen everywhere — that there would be some conversation between the publisher and the editor, and then between the editor and the news desk, about what would be acceptable. If the desk — at any organization, from the Washington Post to the Corpus Christi Caller Times — is making its own, renegade decisions in situations like this, that's more a failure of newsroom leadership than the desk.
I'm assuming you're referring to the Post and Politico online, and not in their printed forums. There is a difference between running it as an 18-point hed atop a story page and a 60-point hed on A1.
If you had any experience and professionalism, you should understand the viewpoint no matter where you work.