SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

[buckweaver]

Oh, I hate games, so I am honest. Always honest. But sadly that's tough to find.

Dunno how old you are, but if you're in your 20s, look for someone a little older. In my experience, older women tend to not put up with bullshirt as much -- unless, of course, they thrive on bullshirt, which many immature people do (of all ages).

 

[AMacIsaac]

Dammit, answer the question.

 

[buckweaver]

Dammit, answer the question.

The real answer is: paying attention to her. Calling her back, texting her back, making time for her, things like that.

I can't tell you the answer for guys who play games, because I was always terrible at that shirt. I'm too dense to play games, or pick up on her games. Spell it out, and I might -- might! -- figure it out.

 

[AMacIsaac]

I don't think he's playing games, or at least playing them intentionally. I'm just not sure he's at the stage where he wants to say something.

Does that make sense?

 

[buckweaver]

Sure. If he's genuine about it, maybe he's still trying to figure out his feelings.

So look out for good signs (like him paying attention to you, making time for you), look out for red flags (like him pushing you away), and if you finally get fed up with the vagueness, either give him a chance to be clear about it or move on and don't look back.

 

[JC]

I don't think he's playing games, or at least playing them intentionally. I'm just not sure he's at the stage where he wants to say something.

Does that make sense?

Calling just to talk about things that seem insignificant, for me, I'm not much for useless chatter unless I'm really interested in someone.

Going out of your way to make sure you bump into her.

If those things fail I pull her hair or punch her in the arm.

 

[AMacIsaac]

Haha, JC ... that's one of my signals!

 

[Wenders]

Dammit, answer the question.

The real answer is: paying attention to her. Calling her back, texting her back, making time for her, things like that.

What if you aren't to the number-exchanging stage? How can you tell if he likes you or he's just being nice?

 

[buckweaver]

Dammit, answer the question.

The real answer is: paying attention to her. Calling her back, texting her back, making time for her, things like that.

What if you aren't to the number-exchanging stage? How can you tell if he likes you or he's just being nice?

Umm, ask for his number.

 

[Wenders]

Dammit, answer the question.

The real answer is: paying attention to her. Calling her back, texting her back, making time for her, things like that.

What if you aren't to the number-exchanging stage? How can you tell if he likes you or he's just being nice?

Umm, ask for his number.

This always backfires for me. I'm not normally a girl to rest on her laurels and wait for the guy (especially being unpatient) but it hasn't been that successful in the past for me.

 

[luckyducky]

Dammit, buck, I almost choked on my subway sandwich when I read that.

 

[dreunc1542]

And I agree. Both sexes suck equally when it comes to dating. If everyone was just honest about everything (no games), dating would be a heck of a lot easier. Of course, if dating was easier, would the end result be as worth it?

Yes, it'd be worth it. Nothing worse than mind games when it comes to dating.

Just be honest -- start today. Gotta be honest with yourself, too, though. That's even harder than being honest with the other person.

There's nothing I hate more than mind games. One of the big turn-ons for me with the girl I like now is that she was extremely straightforward the first couple times we flirted and hung out in the same group.