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dreunc1542 said:I apologize in advance for the long post. I've had a shirtty month in the dating department. A while back on this thread I mentioned that I was going out on a first date with a girl. Well that girl ended up being just about batshirt crazy and too clingy within like a week of when we started dating. So I broke things off a couple days before my spring break, which was nice because it allowed me to just go to NYC, watch some basketball, hang out with family and friends and not worry about dating stuff.
Well, the Thursday night I was in NYC I couldn't get tickets to the night session of the Big East Tournament and instead went to Brooklyn with my friend to meet up with his gf and her best friend. I hit it off instantly with the friend and we danced together the whole night at the bar until it closed around 230.
*Side note: That was the night of the 6 OT Cuse-UCONN game and so while dancing I was also texting my best friend from home to get updates on the game and I was kind of pissed that I missed it. IJAG also texted me about the game, but when I texted back that I was dancing with a girl she told me to stop being an idiot and stop texting her
Anyway, back to the girl. So I got her number at the end of the night and we texted all night on Friday but she was exhausted from work and couldn't go out. Instead, we met up for lunch on Saturday since I was leaving soon after that. The lunch went well and when we got to the subway station I was unsure and just went for a hug, but she pulled my face in and gave me a goodbye kiss. At this point I felt pretty good about how things were going.
From there, we talked every day for the next two weeks and really seemed to have a connection. The only thing that sucked was the four hour drive in between us. It happened to work out, though, that my roommate was going down to NYC last weekend for teacher certification tests and so it was a perfect opportunity for me to visit this girl for a day and actually get to hang out in person. So I went down and while she was a little tough to read during parts of the night, things ended up going really well. I stayed at her place and we made breakfast in the morning and in general I was happy with my decision to go see her.
I got back Saturday night, but she was with her family from Saturday through Sunday so I didn't hear much from her beyond a few texts, which was fine. But then I didn't hear from her all Monday despite the fact that I left her a message saying that I had a great time and hope she did as well and that I liked her and wanted to see where things would go. On Tuesday morning I woke up and she IM'd me said straightaway that she just wanted to be friends. Her reasoning being that we were far away and each busy finishing up our last month at college. I'm fine with that because it is sound reasoning since we don't know where we'll be after school.
However, it's not like she said that she likes me and would be willing to see where things go if we end up in the same place after graduation. Reading between the lines it seemed like she only sees me as a friend, but that's definitely not the impression I got from the night I was in the city. She had to run, so I couldn't get more of an explanation and then when I tried to talk to her that night she didn't respond. I talked to her briefly online on Thursday but didn't have time to really press the issue and get more of an explanation. If this is the way she felt the whole time then she should have told me so I didn't waste my time visiting her. And if this was a new development, then I want to know what changed between me leaving and Tuesday when she said she just wanted to be friends. The moral of the story, I still don't understand women at all.
Very similar to something I went through, except that I flew to NY to see the girl, then drove 6 hours to see her again a few weeks later. Everything seemed great, until she suddenly stopped returning phone calls and texts. After a week of that she said it was over. Found out later that she told people she didn't think I really liked her that much. Because, of course, I routinely book flights to see girls that I don't really like that much....