SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

[KYSportsWriter]

So tonight, I found out why Tiffany couldn't move here.

"Stuff" changed to "family stuff," but it went no further than that. She asked why I had ignored her, and I reminded her that she was the one to break things off, not the other way around. She, once again, tried to say everything was my fault and that I overreacted to everything. I'll admit the latter, but the former is a street she doesn't realize goes both ways.

She says she told me a month ago that it was family stuff going on, and that she never said "I'm not coming there at all," which is bull crap. I went through my text messages and found the one where she said "I don't think I should come." No mention of a time frame, but I took that as she was never coming here. What else should I have thought when she wouldn't tell me what was going on?

I'm tired of the bullshirt she's put me through over the past month, and I've tried moving on. But for whatever reason she keeps wanting to come back into my life and I can't seem to keep her out no matter what I do. I've deleted her off Facebook, deleted her number out of my phone and told her I think it's best if we don't talk. She can't seem to take a hint as she added me back on Facebook and texted me about 30 times throughout the day today asking why I was ignoring her.

I don't know what else to do. I'm at the end of my rope with her.

Sorry this was so long, but I had to vent somewhere she wouldn't see it.

 

[luckyducky]

You don't have to accept her back as a friend on Facebook; just keep hitting ignore (I think there's actually a way to block people from finding you on search, too). And just delete the texts before you read them. Or find a way to block her number -- call your cell provider and ask them how to block her from texting if you have to.

 

[KYSportsWriter]

I've already blocked her on Facebook, at least to an extent. I'll leave her on my friends list, for now, so I don't get the "why did you delete me" texts from her.

 

[outofplace]

I've already blocked her on Facebook, at least to an extent. I'll leave her on my friends list, for now, so I don't get the "why did you delete me" texts from her.

If you really want her all the way gone, just answer the question. Harshly. I've had to do something similar, though under very different circumstances. It sucks, but it has to be done if you want her to leave you alone.

 

[imjustagirl]

KYSW, if you would just tell her why, she'll stop. Eventually, but she'll stop. You can't be her facebook friend and then not answer her. De-friend her, call the provider, block her texts. But first, you tell her.

Then, you never talk to her again. You can't keep half-assing it.

 

[outofplace]

KYSW, if you would just tell her why, she'll stop. Eventually, but she'll stop. You can't be her facebook friend and then not answer her. De-friend her, call the provider, block her texts. But first, you tell her.

Then, you never talk to her again. You can't keep half-assing it.

KYSW, see? Even IJAG and I can agree on this, so it must be true.

 

[sportschick]

What IJAG said. Stop being a forking wimp. Grow a pair and tell her why.

Gawd, Cadet's right. Boys are the new girls.

 

[AMacIsaac]

Or, take some lipstick, write WELCOME on your forehead and lay down on her front porch.

Easy peasy.

 

[luckyducky]

Or, take some lipstick, write WELCOME on your forehead and lay down on her front porch.

Easy peasy.

I knew there was a reason I liked you.

 

[AMacIsaac]

Or, take some lipstick, write WELCOME on your forehead and lay down on her front porch.

Easy peasy.

I knew there was a reason I liked you.

I pull a jewel out of the air every once in a while.

 

[Songbird]

So tonight, I found out why Tiffany couldn't move here.

"Stuff" changed to "family stuff," but it went no further than that. She asked why I had ignored her, and I reminded her that she was the one to break things off, not the other way around. She, once again, tried to say everything was my fault and that I overreacted to everything. I'll admit the latter, but the former is a street she doesn't realize goes both ways.

She says she told me a month ago that it was family stuff going on, and that she never said "I'm not coming there at all," which is bull crap. I went through my text messages and found the one where she said "I don't think I should come." No mention of a time frame, but I took that as she was never coming here. What else should I have thought when she wouldn't tell me what was going on?

I'm tired of the bullshirt she's put me through over the past month, and I've tried moving on. But for whatever reason she keeps wanting to come back into my life and I can't seem to keep her out no matter what I do. I've deleted her off Facebook, deleted her number out of my phone and told her I think it's best if we don't talk. She can't seem to take a hint as she added me back on Facebook and texted me about 30 times throughout the day today asking why I was ignoring her.

I don't know what else to do. I'm at the end of my rope with her.

Sorry this was so long, but I had to vent somewhere she wouldn't see it.

1) Didn't we go over this a month ago, dude?

2) Listen to SC's advice, which is what I tried telling you last month. Unless, of course, you like to play with lipstick. Then you can follow MacIsaac's advice, too.

And there was no breaking *anything* off. There was nothing to break off then, and there's nothing to break off now. Man alive, move on.

 

[slytiger]

It wasn't until I was out of college that I realized that a large part of getting what you want is asking for it. I spent the rest of my 20s using this newfound knowledge to my advantage.

So simple, so true.