Take care of yourself

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

Just to clarify: I didn't generalize. I was specifically talking about my wife when I said "For her there is a sense of contentment. She has her man so, why worry."

Definitely didn't mean all women.

And I totally agree with your last line. I just wish she wanted it more.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

Actually, I think my situation is a little unique. My lifestyle has changed significantly during the past two years, marriage being only a part of the transormation.

I lived downtown, walked everywhere, jogged a lot and rarely ate a full-course meal. My lifestyle off-set a lot of drinking and I stayed thin.

Now, I live in the suburbs, drive everywhere, been too busy with work and the new house to jog and my wife is an exceptional cook. The result is a little extra baggage in my mid-section.

My wife and I spend a lot of time together when I'm not working so we decided we would spend that quality time together at the gym.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

I'm getting married in March so if someone finds a solution, please let me know.
My fiance and I both work out just about everyday, but in different gyms doing different things. She mostly does spinning and Pilates classes and the treadmill. I run, lift, bike and stuff.
I think it would bother me (maybe more than it should) if she lost her dedication to looking good once we got married.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

My wife's looks are only a small part of my frustration with her not wanting to exercise anymore.

The big part is the toll it takes on our activities. She not in good enough shape to go hiking and backpacking anymore. She doesn't want to play basketball or volleyball anymore because "I'm too slow, and too tired."

Those type activities used to occupy some of our quality time. I'm still doing those things, just not with her.

Frustrating.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

Does she know how you feel?

Have you offered to be her trainer?

Because even if she doesn't want to do it for you, she has to stay healthy for your kids.

Do you travel a lot?

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

Not to change the subject but how does one get 5,115 posts, 21?
I've made lots of useless posts (like this one) and am still months away from triple digits.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

Not that I'm trying to pad my posts.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

That would be tacky.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

I have a lot to say. 8)

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

21,

Since a lot of people in long-term relationships (marriages, too) take on weight in America, there's obviously something to it.

I think it has to do with staying at home more. Single people probably do more stuff: Work out, go out, hike, dance, burn more calories just trolling the old familiar haunts and bars, looking for conversation. It's not the treadmill or the pilates machine, but it's a workout. I can appreciate that alcohol is worth calories, but for me it was never worth, not even close, a night with my girlfriend and a frozen pizza at home, watching a movie. With a couple of beers. When you haven't moved from the couch. There is a comfort and closeness there - it happened to me - and you do gain weight. Then you go about losing it, and this thread is pretty excellent in terms of showing people who want to, how to. I've even learned, though I haven't posted much.

Now there are some couples who retain their routines of consistent nights out and dates and stuff to do. To them I say kudos and they're probably happier with their figures and health, because those people tend to notice if others are noticing, etc. Some couples really hibernate after they get close. They don't realize how far they've fallen out of the accepted weight and look among their better-shaped peers.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

Probably true in some cases...agree about single/dating couples getting out and being more active. Definitely true that married people tend to go home and lay on the couch--although a lot of single people do the same.

I suspect that single people--especially women-- have the luxury of narcissism...it's all about them. Later it's about the husband, the kids, etc.

That said, I know plenty of unhappy beautiful couples....and plenty of overweight happily in love couples. Whatever works, i guess.

I also know plenty of couples who have the Jack Sprat deal, one heavy, one lean....someone is usually unhappy there.

 

Re: Take care of yourself (LiveSTRONG)

I think marriage removes the sense of desperation -- you get the attitude that your partner loves you no matter what. Which in one sense is a tribute to your relationship, but it doesnt show much regard for your partner as a person.

Let's see. Since early April, when I had the proverbial "come-to-Jesus experience," I've lost about 85 pounds.

Diet: One Healthy Choice/Lean Cuisine meal every day. Total caloric intake, 300-500. Plenty of water and diet fruit drinks, and diet pop, zero calories.

On selected days, substitute half (1/2) of an Arby's Turkey Ranch and Bacon Wrap for the Healthy Choice meal. 365 calories. Eat the rest the next day.

Workout: Every morning, 30 minutes of medium intensity pedaling on the exercise bike. 10 minutes of that with 5-pound hand weight in each hand.
When done on the bike, 30 minutes on the Soloflex. Bench presses, bench row, lat pulldown, standing curl, leg press, situps and butterflys.

Three or four days a week, an additional mini-version of that session when I get home from work at night. 20 minutes on the bike, 10-15 on the Soloflex.

I'm not exactly ripped and chiseled yet, but we do seem to be making some progress...