Ace said:
Why do I as a Christian have to worry about someone else's sin and forgiveness?
I believe there are plenty of examples in the bible where folks can be forgiven for anything at any time. Several from Jesus himself.
In fact, he makes the point that God especially cherishes bringing home the prodigal sons.
I believe very strongly in the belief that one can be forgiven for anything at any time -- and that there is no "point value" on sins. Sin is sin, and forgiveness is forgiveness, and that forgiveness is available to all. But I was also raised to believe that, once forgiven, one should attempt to refrain from knowingly committing that sin in the future (but if it happens, there is more forgiveness available).
It's the endorsement of sin that is the problem, whether legal or within the church. Where a lot of evangelicals are scared of gay marriage is that it could be used as a cudgel to force them to accept homosexuality -- tax exemptions withheld for churches who refuse to perform gay weddings, photographers who refuse to shoot them being sued on equal rights statutes, et al. The eHarmony suit -- where New Jersey forced the company to add a "men seeking men" and "women seeking women" section based on its anti-discrimination statutes -- has rung very, very deeply in the evangelical community, as has the targeting of Chick-Fil-A because one local franchise donated food to a marriage conference. That Massachusetts has pulled funding from Catholic adoption agencies because they will only adopt to married heterosexual couples. Those are *big* issues in the evangelical community. In each, it's the case of a company founded on those values that now are being either forced to go against the religious principles on which they were founded legally or having to face societal heckling as a result.
To me, I could care less. I'd rather see the state not sanction marriage and leave it up to the individual church/couple to determine what constitutes marriage, with the state only sanctioning the relationship as a contractual one (which is, in a legal sense, all marriage is), not as a marriage. If some strains of Mormonism want to endorse polygamy, then the state shouldn't have to step in and ban it. If gay couples want to form a union and have a church recognize it, that's fine. If a hetero couple has a similar union, also fine. The state should only assent to the contract between the adults for the sharing of property. But by not providing its endorsement to human relationships, that would also keep the state from tacitly being able to punish those who don't endorse such relationships with anti-discrimination laws.