The Internet dating world is a cesspool

Assuming, of course, there are no false positives and everyone taking the survey is in their everyday frame of mind when doing so.

 

So, do they let you try again, a few months down the road?

Though, I guess maybe you wouldn't want to...

 

I've tried eHarmony, and I don't recall having to be approved. They just took my money and gave me free rein of the joint. Maybe they aren't doing this screening process anymore. I would not recommend eHarmony, however. The questions you have to answer back and forth before you even can start e-mailing each other are maddening.

 

This thread is fascinating to me. I'm married. Marriage on the rocks. It may not last because of blah blah blah no one cares, leo1. But if it ended my whole life is my marriage. I have no friends ouside the marriage -- ie dads of my kids' friends, shit like that. I have no real family (pre marriage) and neither does my wife (it's a long story ). So if or when the marriage ends I literally have no idea how I'd meet people. That's why I'm interested in online dating. I'm not a weirdo but I guess I'm socially awkward and wouldn't have the slightest idea how to approach a stranger at a bar, coffee shop or any other setting.

And versatile is right. When I skim dating sites I automatically knock her down a few pegs if the writing sounds like she's a 10 year old. Surprisingly on jdate most profiles contain few errors...

 

I'm persnickety enough that there would be almost no chance I would even remotely like anyone outside that 10 percent window anyway.

 

I've actually found quite a few women in my area who have the same criteria. They usually put at the bottom of their profile that they won't return messages to anyone who uses poor grammar.

 

But will they return messages to men with outstanding grammar but are wearing overalls in their photo?

 

Seems like a bad idea. Better to weed out the poor spellers and mixed-tense users, rather than give them the opportunity to clean up their nonsense until they rope you into a date.

 

Second date tomorrow night with an eHarmony reject (which gives her a certain amount of cred IMHO). Then again, how well would I get along with a woman who has never experienced rejection?
My pet peeve: women who don't like bald guys, or guys who have facial hair, but don't specify that in their profiles. Would save me a lot of wasted time - and them, too.

 

I'm usually as careful as anyone when it comes to spelling and grammar, but you can carry it too far. For instance, I would never reject someone just because she did something like end a sentence with a preposition.

Being that rigid about grammar is really not something I'm interested in.

 

That's not actually a grammatical issue. It's an outdated style choice that few people beyond middle-school English teachers abide.

 

New student: "Where's the library at?"

Senior: "At Harvard, we don't end a sentence with a preposition."

New student: "OK. Where's the library at, asshole?"