The Internet dating world is a cesspool

[Batman]

Mrs. Batman and I met through match.com. That was almost seven years ago, and we've been married for 4 1/2. Total bliss.
Before I met her, I had been on the site off and on for a few years. Had plenty of dates (one every couple months), but only a few that turned into anything significant. It always seemed like I had to do the shotgun approach to even get a reply -- poke through the ads, find five or six that looked interesting, then send out some e-mails and see what happens. If there were no replies within a week or two, then try again.
Mrs. Batman was a lot luckier with it (and not just because she met me ). She signed up and I found her ad and e-mailed her a couple days later. I think I was the first or second reply she got.

 

[NickMordo]

Mrs. Batman and I met through match.com. That was almost seven years ago, and we've been married for 4 1/2. Total bliss.
Before I met her, I had been on the site off and on for a few years. Had plenty of dates (one every couple months), but only a few that turned into anything significant. It always seemed like I had to do the shotgun approach to even get a reply -- poke through the ads, find five or six that looked interesting, then send out some e-mails and see what happens. If there were no replies within a week or two, then try again.
Mrs. Batman was a lot luckier with it (and not just because she met me ). She signed up and I found her ad and e-mailed her a couple days later. I think I was the first or second reply she got.

Doesn't Match cost money? Is it worth it? I looked it up and it said like 30 bones for one month !

 

[Beef03]

My sister met her husband on PoF three or four years ago. I've been on it off and on for a little longer than that but it's been hit and miss, mostly miss. I've tried a few other sites as well. I have a hard time sorting through all the BS. I am also far too picky and I'm not really in a great position to be, but I always have been.

 

[Evil Bastard (aka Chris_L)]

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[outofplace]

The New Yorker had a story about Internet dating sites a few months ago. At some point, it had something like this line, "Dating sites are now the third-most common way people meet. First is through friends, and second is at churches, bars, or work."

Something like that where it was like, "Um, where the heck else would people meet?"

Never had to go the Internet route, thank goodness. Met the little lady in college. From the young people I meet now, it seems almost like the only way to go. Almost as if dating your real-life acquaintances is incestuous to them. I think they like to really compartmentalize their social lives. Dating is in one box, clearly marked, "dating." Professional and social relationships are in another, also clearly delineated. No confusion, then, about that guy in the next cubicle over.

I just broke up with my college lady of four years. I'm forked, I guess...

That's the problem. You won't be forked. Which could bring you back to Stitch's suggestion.

 

[Cosmo]

Two of my good friends met their wives on eHarmony, and another has been in a relationship with someone for about 15 months with a girl he met on the site. That's why I was willing to give it a shot. It wasn't a bad thing, but it is pricey, and if you're just looking for fun or a date or two, eHarmony really isn't the place. I think most on there are looking for long-term relationships. Really didn't have an interest in trying any of the other sites. Match.com specifically seems a little sketchy, from the people I talk to.

Of course, right when I was in the middle of my three-month membership, I met the love of my life -- offline. Funny how things happen sometimes.

 

[NickMordo]

The New Yorker had a story about Internet dating sites a few months ago. At some point, it had something like this line, "Dating sites are now the third-most common way people meet. First is through friends, and second is at churches, bars, or work."

Something like that where it was like, "Um, where the heck else would people meet?"

Never had to go the Internet route, thank goodness. Met the little lady in college. From the young people I meet now, it seems almost like the only way to go. Almost as if dating your real-life acquaintances is incestuous to them. I think they like to really compartmentalize their social lives. Dating is in one box, clearly marked, "dating." Professional and social relationships are in another, also clearly delineated. No confusion, then, about that guy in the next cubicle over.

I just broke up with my college lady of four years. I'm forked, I guess...

That's the problem. You won't be forked. Which could bring you back to Stitch's suggestion.

All I want is someone to hold me and tell me that everything is gonna be alright...

 

[terrier]

As someone who is contemplating diving into the match.com dogpile, the "income" question has me breaking out in nightsweats. Either I tell the truth and get no responses (maybe a few laughs), or say "I'll tell you later." Any woman with half a brain (I require a half or more) can see through that dodge.

 

[Care Bear]

I put "No Answer" on the income question. My income is neither embarrassingly low nor high enough to attract gold diggers. But it's no one's business until after we start dating for a while.

Yeah, that's also a good way to weed out the women who are only filtering their dating prospects by income.

 

[Greenhorn]

As someone who is contemplating diving into the match.com dogpile, the "income" question has me breaking out in nightsweats. Either I tell the truth and get no responses (maybe a few laughs), or say "I'll tell you later." Any woman with half a brain (I require a half or more) can see through that dodge.

OKC has that too. And like Mr. C, I left it blank.

 

[TrooperBari]

As someone who is contemplating diving into the match.com dogpile, the "income" question has me breaking out in nightsweats. Either I tell the truth and get no responses (maybe a few laughs), or say "I'll tell you later." Any woman with half a brain (I require a half or more) can see through that dodge.

I just tell the truth. One look at me and the women will have me sussed out anyway.

 

[NickMordo]

As someone who is contemplating diving into the match.com dogpile, the "income" question has me breaking out in nightsweats. Either I tell the truth and get no responses (maybe a few laughs), or say "I'll tell you later." Any woman with half a brain (I require a half or more) can see through that dodge.

I find it interesting on Match.com that all of your preferences for your dates are shown on your profile, such as religious preference and drinking preference and kids and body type. Doesn't it look shallow if you say, "I want a thin, athletic and toned female"? I searched for fun last night (no subscription) and found a BEAUTIFUL girl who was my age (aka younger than just about all of you, ha ha) and her profile said, "I don't want ANYBODY who drinks. It is DISGUSTING." Like, really? Turns out she is a Bible thumper.

On Plenty of Fish they do things differently. Sometimes, if you try to message someone, you get a message that says you aren't allowed to message someone because you either don't have the same long-term commitment goals or something. But they don't tell you why you can't message them. Technology, blah.