Interracial couple photo causes stir in STL P-D

We can't help who we are attracted to.

Though a girl in college who I was acquaintances with came to me because she saw me with my girlfriend and asked me what to do because she was attracted to a black guy (she was white). I gave her a bit of a stunned look and asked her what the hell difference it made. She said "My parents would never approve of me going out with a colored guy".

I ended the conversation there.

 

I just wanted to note that at the top of my page I have an advert for AfroRomance.com.

 

Because every thread needs an lolcat. . .



I dated a black guy a few years back. My biological father and his mother didn't speak to me for two years. Now, there were other issues, but that definitely played a role. In fact my grandmother was still bitching about it five years later when my younger sister told her off. She hasn't mentioned it in front of the family in some time.

 

True, but by that logic (in an open accepting world, aka a perfect world) the numbers would eventually even out to 50 percent across the board. But since they don't, it means there are social reasons for there being discrepancies. Now, same-race couples matching up makes sense from that standpoint. Not that I can explain it or support it, but it's at least somewhat rational. We tend to stick with the familiar or the chemicals in our brains make us predisposed to find a similar-looking person more attractive. Whatever.

But in the Asian/white situation, one way far outpaces the other, and I find that fascinating.

I think a statement like this stands for many of us here: "If my [significant other] had been [another race], then I'd be married to a [person of that race]." But in spite of that attitude, most of us pair up within our race.

I'm not saying it's better or right, just true and fascinating.

 

If I'm a P-D subscriber, I'd be madder than hell about the cover, too.






Best places to smooch? What kind of waste of newsprint is that?

 

It is generally recognized that Asian men are at the bottom of the sexual totem pole in the U.S. They generally only couple with Asian women, while Asian women also branch out to men of other races. I don't know why it is.

 

I have heard my wife's aunts (Korean) more than once tell their daughters to find "a nice American boy." Haven't asked why.

 

Oh yeah, left out the part that indeed the daughters did marry anglos. Although two weren't nice.

 

I dated a Korean girl for a number of years. She had two brothers & two sisters.

Her father wanted the boys to marry traditional Korean women.

He wanted the girls to marry white guys so that they wouldn't be treated like traditional Korean women.

She and both her sisters married white guys. The oldest brother married a girl from Korea (pretty much an arranged marriage). The other brother married a girl who was half Irish and half Mexican. It was a big deal and a big disappointment to his parents.

 

Yeah, Yank, one of my wife's male cousins had an arranged marriage to a Korean woman. And he was born in the states. Spoke like three words in Kangul.

 

My stepdad is black, and he and my mom got together when I was a kid. I'd hear some pretty obnoxious things in school, not about my parents, but racist stuff that really bothered me. Even when I got older, people would make comments in front of me because I'm white, and I guess they never assumed it should bother me. I never got why someone would feel comfortable making a bigoted comment in front of anyone, but they did.

Anyway, my mom and stepdad are actually a great couple and he's made her very happy for 23 years, and they are really well-suited for each other. I always thought if people could just see their lives and how they react to eachother and their boring hobbies they both love, no one would oppose them being married.

As far as the racist comments on the PD's Web site regarding the photo, it's almost funny. Of course it's going to create a "stir" among anonymous online commenters. Heck, I think we could run a story on our Web site about a new grocery store opening, and some dimwit would make a racist comment about four messages in. I've already decided the majority of commenters on a newspaper Web sites are morons, so why should St. Louis' be any different?

 

Her sister in law spoke basically no English.

And she was very traditional. She could really cook though. So could my ex's mom.

Now I'm craving Korean food. Might have to go to the Super H Mart tomorrow.