Need advice: How do you deal with wife's affair, divorce?

Are you just stupid or something Slappy? I've grown very tired of your comments ON EVERY POST after I have posted.
This thread is helping a guy who has been through a very tough time. Stop being a a jack ass for once. You might like it. If you don't have ANYTHING contribute, don't post.
Everyone who is a regular knows that you love to post. Stupid comments like one you made isn't worthwhile.
I won't make this a pissing war. You got a beef with me on a message board? Send it in a PM!!!!!!!

 

I've always wondered why comments LIKE THIS are not sent in a PM. Hmmmmmmm . . .

 

To answer your question BT, Slappy wants to make things public. He sends nasty comments after every post that I write and to top it off, has the nerve to block me on a PM.
I would prefer to answer his remarks in a PM to keep them off the board. Yes, I can ignore him but this thread, for the most part, has helped out one of our own through a tough period. Slappy's crap isn't needed and is juvenile. You would think that he would grow up but apparently, that's not the case.

 

Well, in Pm's you challenge people to fights and say you live in Seattle. So you're a liar on the board and in PM's.

 

And the opposite of war is not peace, it's creation. Create a new world for yourself. Take the old garbage, metaphorically, to PMs and have a happy Rest of Your Life Day.

 

I did not, but I will get another chance this afternoon. We didn't get the taxes completely finished yesterday because both she and I were without forms we needed, but didn't know we needed. So we're coming back this afternoon to finish.

I want to ask her about him. I just don't know how to bring it up without, as others have said, seeming like I care still. Because i am curious, but it really doesn't matter at this point and I'd rather her not think I care. Suggestions on how to ask? The obvious, "So, how's Loverboy doing? You guys still together?" is probably the easiest way to do it but somehow leaves me lacking...

 

If you want to make it really hurt, try: So, now that the divorce is final, I'm guessing there might be a wedding in the offing for you with Loverboy, eh?

 

Not, settle this once and for all. Ask her if she and loverboy are happy. That will give you all you need to know about their situation.
And it will also stop you from worrying about someone who really doesn't give a damn about you.
This is all part of the healing process my friend. You're doing fine. You just need to lick this curiosity beast.

 

Azrael is right.

Don't ask. Let her stew in her misery. She lost you, she lost him, now she's dealing with the consequences. Rubbing it in like that would only diminish you.

Finish the paperwork and close the book.

 

In a nonchalant manner, ask if she is aware that Mustangj17 mentioned his encounter with her on the "Worst Dates" thread.....

 

Do your taxes and leave.

If she asks you anything personal, just shrug, then leave.

Because no matter what you ask, or how you ask it, she's going to respond in a way that you won't anticipate, and it will set you off.

Let it go.