Need advice: How do you deal with wife's affair, divorce?

Don't ask. You'll eventually find out through the grapevine and it will just make things worse.

Plus, she could always lie.

 

Yes, yes, yes. What they said - coffee, 21, fj ...

Please don't ask? Pretty please?

 

This is the smart play.

Personally, I'd pay the tax guy to hand her a note asking her to check a box on how things are going with Loverboy.

 

Of course not. Pissing, as we all know, is not your specialty.

And congrats, Not. I'm happy you've made it this far. But I would agree with everyone else who has said you shouldn't ask about Loverboy... let it be.

Good luck!

 

DRIP,

Is SLAPPY's "crap" what you actually mailed to your ex? With a cherry on top of course.

Sorry, I just couldn't resist.

 

Red, I hate it when you shadow slappy .... who is dogging Drip ... who is headed to the UPS store.

 

Guys, can we just take the bullshit to pm's? Or mail it to one another in ring boxes or something?

Not, I have to agree with the others. Don't ask. I get that you want to know for sure. We all do, too, but you're better off not showing any signs of giving a damn.

 

Not - Please don't ask.

 

Quickly because I'm in a hurry, but I asked if Loverboy and his wife went through with their divorce. She said "Not to be rude, but I don't feel comfortable talking about that." Interpret it how you will.

Also, I got hosed. A technicality on the divorce agreement regarding our tax refund bit me to the tune of over $300 in her favor. Complicated to explain, but suffice it to say she got $300+ more on her return than she should have. The converse of that is that my lawyer and I suspected it might happen, but to fight it would have dragged out the divorce proceedings longer and I'd probably still be married to her and paying my attorney way more than $300.

I want to forgive her. I really do. But every time I see her or have to speak to her, she makes it so difficult. I felt as much hate for her driving home from that tax meeting as I have in a long, long time.

 

IMHO, even that (Loverboy) was asking too much, Not. Asking about the situation in any form allows her to think you're still thinking about it. That's too bad...