Need advice: How do you deal with wife's affair, divorce?

$300 bucks? I lose that much on mismatched socks every laundry load. Let it go, Not.

 

Sucks about the $300, but you'll be richer in the long run.

That's funny how she doesn't want to talk about Loverboy's (supposed) divorce. Hope she's feeling about an inch tall right now.

 

LET IT GO NOT. !!!!

 

Good. Your hate makes you powerful.

 

Outing alert: Starman is actually Darth Vader.

Not, I meant to post this before you went off to the accountant's, but I think it bears mentioning anyway: you have got to stop allowing the ex's happiness, or lack thereof, to matter to you. The sooner you can do that, the sooner you will be well and truly rid of her.

 

You are correct. If I could make her completely irrelevant to me I would be much better off. But good lord she pissed me off today with her selfishness and bitchiness about the $300. There was the mature way she could have handled it, and the selfish greedy slut way, and she chose the latter.

And then she had the gall to bitch at me about what was fair. The irony of that was apparently lost on her.

How did I end up with this slut for so long? People (Hi Philosopher!) have told me she's had this selfish bitch in her this whole time and I overlooked it because of whatever good qualities she had. But there's no way. This has to be a personality change on her part. There's no way I could have put up with this for nine years, no matter how I felt about the rest of her. There is a part of her that is simply pure, selfish evil and there's no way I could have overlooked that for nine fucking years!

 

Not - For your sanity and physical health, you've got to put her in your rear-view mirror. What happened, happened. You can't change that. But, you can choose to look forward rather than back. You'll be much better off for it.

It took me a while to realize it after my wife died in November 2008. Sure, I still get sad when I think about it. My son was talking about her recently, and it made me reflect. That said, I'm working on looking forward. I'm working on my health - trying to lose weight and lower my blood pressure. Both of my kids are in high school - what am I going to do with my free time once they're grown?

Not - now that your divorce is final and the taxes are done, look forward, not back. You've got a lot of years ahead of you and a lot of life still to experience. Embrace it.

 

Fixed.

Believe me, I should be the last person on Earth to tell anyone not to look back at a major transgression, considering the fact that it took me over 16 years to finally mend fences with my mother to the point where we now communicate. However, you do yourself no good obsessing about wifeslut and Loverboy.

 

Not, take it from me. Fuck this woman and the horse she rode in on. She didn't give a damn about you and still doesn't. So you had to pay a little more loot. That's nothing. You are free of her. Rejoice.

 

Drip,

Bestiality might make you feel good for a while, but it never solves anything.