Need advice: How do you deal with wife's affair, divorce?

With your foul language and impure thoughts I hope you were on your knees praying for salvation.

Not-- have you considered Buddhism ? Judging by Tiger the chicks dig the Buddha man.

 

I even prayed for you Boom.

 

Not at all. Not even a fraction of it. I'd bet that she doesn't think of me at all more days than those she does, and when she does it's probably very fleeting.

I wish I didn't feel this way. I wish I could be like her, only thinking of her in fleeting, insignificant ways. But every morning I wake up, and she's on my mind from eyes open because I was just dreaming about her treating me like shit. That's a bad way to start every morning of your life, thinking of the way the person you loved and trusted more than any other has betrayed you. Honestly, that's probably my problem as much as anything -- I need to get her out of my dreams, so I can start days fresh.

 

From experience, two things that helped me were 1) getting every remnant of her out of my life and 2) meeting lots of other women.

 

It is a bad way to start every morning, but think of it this way. Every day that you don't talk to her you will help things improve. That way, every day will be better than the last. No day will be as bad as things were a month ago, and in a month no day will be as bad as today was. It will get better, every day.

 

This situation calls for a cold turkey break up. The only interaction he should have with slutwhore is through his attorney talking to hers.

When he hung up that phone with her for the last time, she should have figuratively ceased to exist in his mind. She doesn't deserve to fuck with him emotionally by occupying a place in his thoughts.

 

If you do find out where they're living, list it on craiglist with her cell number.

 

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It'd be nice if you're right about slutwhore and idiotstick not lasting, but who can say for sure?

There are all kinds of people who you wouldn't think should be together, but have lasted for various reasons.

I do share your hope that Not ends up happier in the long run. He deserves it.

 

It is hope. But I have witnessed several couples who came together out of infedility, and I also watched them implode not long after when neither partner could trust the other. You never know how it will work out, but I still put my money on Not for having a better relationship down the road...I just love karma.

 

I'm a firm believer that nice things should not happen to undeserving people.

That said, I'm still waiting for karma to bite my own ex in the ass. But recent events have me wondering if the next few months will begin that process.....it may already have begun.

 

It's hard to be patient but Karma has her own schedule. This I know is true.