Need advice: How do you deal with wife's affair, divorce?

I agree that you should stop focusing on your ex, and try to put her out of your mind.

I know that's easier said than done.

 

Will be much easier once divorce is said and done.

 

The only thing I can think of is if she plans to use that in court tomorrow.

Even then, it doesn't matter that she knows about it. Let your lawyer handle everything and don't even think about the bitch. She sure as fuck doesn't deserve the mental energy you're expending toward her.

 

Still married. Didn't even think such was possible for today, yet here I am.

Fuck wifey. Fuck her dad for being the one responsible for this thing dragging on into eternity. Fuck her mom for that retarded little smirk she gave me in the waiting room. Fuck the United States family court system for being the most slow-moving, convoluted fucking thing ever devised. Fuck me for ever asking out that skank in the first place.

This is fucking miserable. I feel like such a greedy asshole simply for trying to get what I'm owed. If I was willing to grab my ankles and take it this could all be over.

Oh yeah, FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

So it went well?

(Sorry. You have to laugh or you will go insane.)

 

Not, it's all good. Calm down and tell us what happened.

 

Sorry to hear that. It's really easy to drag things along in court, unfortunately. Maybe they think this will help them get a tactical advantage of some kind. /shrug

 

What actually happened, Not?

 

I so wanted this to be over today. It was supposed to be. It was labeled as our final conference. Yet she dragged her feet enough that now we've got to keep negotiating and by this time next month hopefully have a resolution (yeah fucking right).

What happened today was this: Since our last meeting in early December, that skankbitch has moved out of our house. Because of that, many of the financial numbers we were using to negotiate have changed. We made a revised proposal to her side with those changes in mind, her side of course fought them, the judge ruled in our favor on some issues, and now her side is back deciding what to do on this new set of numbers.

Basically, if she hadn't moved out, we would have been done today because all the numbers had been decided, it was just a matter of compromising. But by moving out, those numbers changed and basically set us back a month. My lawyer's theory is that she moved to the state next door to escape my state's rule that her retirement fund was a marital asset to be split, while the state next door says it would be hers alone. So she moved there to establish residency in order to re-file for divorce there and not have to pay me from the retirement fund. But my lawyer filed some paperwork extending the divorce petition from our side, so she basically can't do that, ruining that plan of hers.

It's a long, complicated, convoluted story that probably doesn't make sense the way I've typed it. But the gist is, from my perspective her side would rather pay lawyers thousands of dollars to drag this out and figure out ways to avoid paying me many fewer thousands. In effect, she'd rather pay lawyers an assload than me anything. At least that's how it appears from my seat.

Oh yeah, and FFFFFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so sick of this shit.

 

It really sounds like it was a good thing you got a lawyer. And a good one. It's nice that she's having to pay out the wazoo for legal advice.

 

Bleed her for everything, Not. If she's going to drag it out makes sure she pays for it.