SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

The only problem with the "just say so" option is you put the person on the spot. Sometimes people don't act well under pressure and won't give a true answer.

 

Then that isn't someone I want to be with, is it?

I so look forward to your perspective on dating.

 

How easily we forget how this thread started. A girl with a boyfriend met Mustang and gave him her number.

 

Nope.

 

Exactly right. It is easy to get so caught up in trying to figure out what works that you forget to do what works for you. I know that was one of my many problems when I was still swimming in the dating pool. Ok, actually it was more like treading water and trying not to drown, but you get the idea.

 

Last time I went out on a date, before I ultimately waved the white flag, I told her I thought she was cool and hoped we'd get together again. Four days later, she went away for the weekend and hooked up with an old friend.

Years prior, there was this young lady I liked. One night I made spaghetti and brought it to her at work (cue Kevin Smith reference), and in previous months I'd make it known I wanted to spend time with her. A drink here, movie there, hockey game elsewhere. Never pushed it ahead, though, in hopes that my subtle approach would work and she'd get the hint. She's now married and expecting a kid with someone not named me, but still a very dear friend.

So that's a big no on the subtle approach, AND on the direct approach. Anyone who can find a middle ground gets props from me, but otherwise... fuck it. Too much bullshit.

 

I'm "too" something for a lot of people. You get used to it after a while.

 

Should have sprung for the lasagna, dude. Works every time.

 

"You know, there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But you don't need to bring them spaghetti at work because, most of 'em will end up having someone elses baby."

 

No one ad-libs in Kevin Smith's -- unless you're him or Ben Affleck, on occasion.

"Who's house? ..."

 

I hear you. Mind games suck. Give me a straightforward girl who knows what she wants and doesn't want, and isn't afraid to say so.

 

But that would take all the mystery out of it! :

And now I remember why I quit dating.