SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

She was playing you like a fiddle.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

So what you're saying is I'm a pretty big sucker.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

No.

Just that your ex was a bitch to you.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

I think that's some pretty good closure, dude. If she wants you back, she'll make the move. Until then, I'd go on loving your life. The pain will fade.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

That's how I got closure, but I was the one doing the blocking. I bet she was surprised, but I couldn't care less.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

no, chief, you loved the girl and leave it at that.

you can miss somebody the rest of your life and that doesn't make you a pussy or a sucker. nobody can tell you how deeply you felt for someone or what their absence means to you because they don't know.

as long as it doesn't impact how you deal with potential lady friends, who in the fuck cares? miss that girl all you want if that's how you feel.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

There's NO chance she wants him back. If he wants to hold on to the hope that she does, it's wasted energy, which he could put into meeting other women.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

Does he want to meet other women? Because that's not everyone's main goal. It sure isn't mine, and it hasn't been for a long while.

You can have your standard rules, and you can have your personal theories. But what it comes down to is how he feels. Nothing you tell him is going to make him move on -- if that's what he wants to do.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

KYSW: It was not directed at you and wenders at all. Good luck to you crazy Kentuckians.

I hadn't even read the first five pages of this thread, at least not since it first started. It was just my take as someone who has had her more-than-fair-share of exes from this site. Unrelated to anyone but myself, and hopefully serving as an eye-opener to anyone else.

Lono had it in his sig one time. I was at lunch with him and Mrs. Lono and I was talking about my weird dating history. She said something along the lines of "That site is dangerous because you're talking to someone, you have the same sense of humor, you click, and soon you're sleeping with someone you'd never sleep with in real life." And part of that is true. I mean, I loved all the guys off here I dated. Every one of them. But if I just knew them in town, if we had gone out to bars instead of instantly falling into a relationship because we sent good PMs...would we have even tried it? Who knows?

It is really easy to get sucked into something on this site. We all work with words, so we often communicate better on here. Our profession has an appreciation for a sharp one-liner or a quick thought. But there's a lot more to a relationship than just being able to zing someone else...and sometimes I've been guilty of not seeing that that level wasn't there until it was too late.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

I guess we are just two crazy kids ...

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

No, I don't think you can put a time limit on these kind of things. Everyone deals with their stuff differently. As Mikey mentioned, some get over it at the drop of a hat. Others not so much.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

Grieving? Sorry, I don't agree. Of course, that what's makes the world go around are differing opinions, so, with that said, let me say this.

Just nut (or ovary) up when you get dumped. Shit guys and gals, they didn't want to be with you or you didn't want to be with them. End of story. Move on. Go out. Get laid. Don't call back. Live life.

Then, when you meet someone that you know you want to be with, then there it is. If that person breaks your heart, it's back to a very fun square zero. Rinse, repeat. Be hurt? Of course. But, dude, it's only a chick and gals, it's only a penis attached to a sperm maker.

I knew the Grandpa was for me on our first vacation together when we sat at breakfast for three hours and at Myrtle Beach and watched person after person stumble over the runner in the walkway past the restaurant and laughed our asses off. That's love, baby. Games ain't love.

EDIT: And what, all of a sudden, because he dies, everybody has to go out and hook themselves up with a Bernie Mac avatar? It's not like was Morgan Freeman or Sam Jackson. (Sorry, for my tone. I'm just fed up with everything right now!!!)