SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

No, that's where you learn to ditch the asshole who cheats on you with women he meets online.

 

Love finds you when you least expect it. Given up on marriage? Good. It means you're not pushing for it, so if The One comes along, you're completely ready for it to happen.

Ten years ago I was your stereotypical college outcast, trying to fit in but ultimately hopeless with women. All the relationships I'd had to that point were from high school, and here I was, second year of college, not even a date since I joined J-school.

One night, a still-in-the-closet-but-so-obviously-gay friend was putting on an Oscar night party, complete with doilies, pigs in a blanket and a pyramid of champagne glasses. A buddy and I stayed for a bit, but there was a concert back at the college and we took off.

A couple weeks later, I got a message from a girl on ICQ. We started chatting and it turned out she knew the still-in-the-closet guy too - she worked with him at a restaurant. We'd sat right next to each other at that party.

Five years ago this Friday I married her. Best thing that's ever happened to me.

Oh, and our mutual friend is now an airline steward.

 

Must be the guy who was distributing pretzels while rocking a Looney Tunes Band-Aid on my last cross-country flight.

 

I know this isn't tought to find on this site, but try finding a woman interested in this vacation itinerary: Monday: Brewers at Indians, Wednesday: Braves at Reds, Thursday: Tigers at Cardinals, Friday: Indians at Cubs; Saturday: Either College World Series in Omaha or Astros at Twins.

 

I found a woman who hates the word "itinerary". But she'd be down for that vacation.

 

Had a very similar situation happen to me. Lady I met through a friend and chatted with off an on on PM, out of the blue PMs me after maybe six months of no PMs. We chat on there for about week and meet for dinner. Dinner goes great and leads to about five more dates.

She tells me she just left her boyfriend, because he was hitting her. Should have been have been a sign, but I was having such a good time, I didn't notice.

So she wants to meet some of my friends, so I arrange a double date on a Saturday night. Call her on Thursday, tell her where we are going, she says that sounds good. Text her on Friday, no answer; leave her a voice mail message, no reply.

Saturday, get a PM "I've decided to go back to my old boyfriend." Oh well. What can you do?

Here's the weird think, I still don't mind being friends with her. After this incident, she calls me usually on Monday's about meeting for dinner after her workouts. We have a great time, as usual. She's flirting during dinner and usually wants to kiss after wards.

She also would call me on Sunday's to go to the movies with her and her mom. Each Sunday, she takes her mom, who isn't that old and lives in a nursing home, to the movies and lunch. Her mother is in a wheelchair and needs a lot of help. She is amazing taking care of her mother, it's something incredible to watch and makes me appreciate her even more.

But, about two months ago, she writes and says her boyfriend doesn't want her talking to me anymore. She recently had surgery and still is recovering from it. A friend of hers told me she did. So I e-mailed her just to find out how she was doing and no reply.

Oh well, what can you do. I know I'm probably better off without her. But, she is such a sweet lady, I miss her.

 

"What can you do" is exactly the attitude to have.

If she comes to her senses, she obviously knows how to reach you. I wouldn't wait around with bated breath, though.

 

Is it just me, or do guys who hit women always have girlfriends?

That's why I'm single I guess, I don't punch girls in the nose.

 

Try some light spanking.

 

Either that or guys who treat girls like pieces of shit always have a girlfriend.

 

You know what, I think I'd rather just hang out with her for dinner or go with her the movies with her and her mom. But, I'm not waiting around for that to happen.

 

No kidding.

I used to think it was a high school thing, that girls were most attracted to guys who act like that. I realize now that, sadly, stupidity in "love" knows no age limit.