SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

That was the most perfect night I've ever had. But I have to get some sleep tonight.

 

Ahem, ahem.

 

A little more detail ...

He arrived in suit and tie, and my jaw dropped. He opened doors, held my hand, complimented how I looked ... the whole nine yards. If this was my first real date in forever, it was the perfect one.

His parents are very warm and engaging people. His dad apologised right off the hop, saying he may become agitated. He just had chemo yesterday and the Prednizone tends to amp an aggressive state. He talked a lot about his treatment, noting he expects to be declared in remission by September.

That was a very different situation for me. When my dad was undergoing radiation therapy, no one spoke about it. He didn't want to and we were all a tad afraid to bring it up.

Tony is very much like his dad ... from looks to mannerisms to state of being.

His mom is very different from his dad. She is more like me ... very 'out there,' very sarcastic, and very apt to say whatever's on her mind.

I like them both very much and hope I get the chance to know them a little bit better.

The production was Buddy: The Buddy Holly Story and it was absolutely delightful.

So great food, great music, and great company. My stress was a tad unnecessary but, hey, that's just me.

I'm leaving town for a ball tournament later this afternoon. But we have plans to see each other Monday night. And I can't wait.

 

I'm glad you enjoyed it. I wouldn't trade my marriage for the world, but I can get a tad wistful for the excitement of a good first date.

 

So my dating misadventures continue. For those of you who remember my hot tub story, the meth head, the girl with the abusive ex-BF or the most recent mixed-signal gal, you'll know how shitty my luck with the ladies is.

Anyway, last September or so, I friended a girl on Facebook who was a senior when I was a freshman in H.S. I had a big crush on her back then, but she didn't know I existed. I was curious what she was up to, so I added her and she reciprocated. She was married and I wasn't thinking about anything happening, just wanted to see where she ended up. We posted on each other's pages periodically over the next few months.

Late last year she got divorced. She posted a lot of her personal feelings on her page and one night I responded to one of her posts just basically saying I was sorry she was going through a rough patch.

Over the past few months our posts became more frequent and we've chatted on Facebook as well, discovering we have quite a bit in common. One night, she mentions that it's too bad I live 5,000 miles away or we'd hang out sometime. As it happened, I was going home for a wedding at the beginning of August (which was about three weeks away at that point).

So we set up a night to hang out and she met up with me and my friends. Everything went really great and I spent the night. I stayed over the night after the wedding as well. We had an incredible time together.

After that, I knew I really liked this girl and would pursue a relationship if I still lived in my hometown, but I was heading back to the South Pacific and figured that weekend would just remain a great memory. She ended up calling me and we talked quite a bit over the next few days and she admitted she's really into me and didn't want the weekend to be a one-shot deal.

So, now, she's going to come visit for a week in October and the more we talk, the more we realize we have real feelings for each other. Of course, we live 5,000 miles apart and she has a daughter with her ex-husband, leaving us with few real options for moving forward. It's not like I live within driving distance.

But neither of us really wants to let it go, either.

Not sure I have a real question here, it's just frustrating that I had to move 5,000 miles away to find someone I really like (and maybe more), only it turns out she practically lives in my old backyard. That's about the luck I have with women.

 

I've been feeling kind of lonely lately after getting laid off and then finding another job. Trying to fit in at a new place and all.

I know this is going to sound stupid but I remember Paula Deen saying when she was lonely she prayed for a friend. And she found her future husband, thanks to a misadventure with her dogs.

So I thought what the heck. Can't hurt to ask for a friend, someone to go to the movies with and hang out with.

Friday totally out of the blue I ran into a lady I hadn't seen in at least two years. We had lost touch when she had some family issues including her father being killed in a car accident.

It was weird because it felt like we had just seen each other the day before. Like no time had past. She remembered most of everything we had talked about two years ago and so did I. She even asked why I hadn't sent her email. Truthfully, I thought she had eliminated that email account.

Well we spent more time together Friday night. Don't think it will go beyond being friends but having a friend is pretty good right now.

Another good thing, she hasn't seen "The Hangover" so I might get the chance to see it again.

 

I don't know how many of you remember my 72-hour relationship from a few years ago, but Tiffany is moving back to Kentucky soon.

We're going to see where things go. There hasn't been a day go by over the last three weeks that we haven't talked for at least a few hours throughout the day.

We are taking things slow, and she hopes to be here next month.

 

I'm so glad to see that friends are finding people, even friends with whom they can spend time. It gives me renewed hope for myself, hahaha.

pern, just take things one day at a time. It may well be that you'll find yourself going home eventually, or something else will transpire that will allow you to be with her. I'm a firm believer that any situation, even distance, can be overcome if two people are determined to figure out how to go about it. (Now if only I could find someone who shares that attitude!)

 

My whole adventure went tits up very quickly. IJAG knows the deal. I'm very sad. But I'll get over it.

 

Sorry to hear.

 

Felt we needed a little resurrection and what better to rekindle this thread with than with a link for the guys.
From another poster's twitter: http://tinyurl.com/ohledn

A touch of explicit discussion, but no photos, so maybe not the best work link ever, but surely not the worst. Just a very interesting read, IMHO. Of course, I'm a bit of a sociology/cultural studies geek, so that might be why.

With that, back to your dating stories of woe and peril.

 

Thirty six days until my lady friend comes to visit. I have to admit, when she booked her flight back in early August, I wondered if three months spent 5,000 miles apart would make those initial feelings of attraction dissipate. Would I still want to pursue anything beyond a week of amazing sexual adventure with her?

In fact, as time passes, our desire for each other has deepened. We chat every day, often for hours at a time, on Facebook, and talk on the phone a couple times a week (the time difference makes it difficult to talk on the phone since I'm at work when she's home and vice versa).

We now consider ourselves a couple even though we've been together in person only twice. The distance has been really difficult, but it's actually made us closer on a mental and emotional level than I think we would have been otherwise. Without being able to get physical with each other, we've just been able to explore each other's personalities. We talk about everything ... the qualities that attract us to each other, what our interests are, why our past relationships have failed and more.

It's been an amazing seven weeks or so and I'm really looking forward to her week here to see what might happen. I know that no matter what happens that week, we're still going to have spend a lot of time apart, but it's definitely something we're both willing to pursue.

The strangest part about it is that many of the "rules" I began trying to follow in the wake of past relationships, I've thrown them right out the window for her.

As someone who had become quite pessimistic about finding someone that really connected with me, for the first time in about three years, I've become quite optimistic about this one