SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

Thanks, buck ... I am every day.

And, if I may pat myself on the back, I definitely out-punted my coverage with this girl. She was the hottest girl in school when I was a freshman and she's only gotten better looking.

 

BP, if you want to find out whether this works or not, take a look at the Love on the Internets thread I started in December. We did the same thing: met through the Internet, moved on to e-mail and then to talking on the phone hours and hours. Then we met in NYC and did Christmas together in North Carolina and then New Year's in Boston and met in NYC again in February. In April, the SO moved in and we're probably going to have a bigger announcement shortly. So good luck to you. PM me if you have any questions.

 

I am declaring myself off the market. And not because I've met anyone but because there are things I have to take care of in my own head.

Good luck, bigpern!

 

Thanks for the support everyone.

I told her I love her tonight. I had bitten my tongue for at least month on it, but I couldn't hold it back anymore. I had a plan for how I was going to tell her when she got here, but I just couldn't wait another five weeks.

Though I've been in love twice before, she's the first girl I've ever said those words to when it mattered. On the one hand, I wish I had told a former girlfriend that while we were dating, but on the other hand, it makes it that much more special to me that this girl is the first.

Fortunately, that matzah ball was not left hanging out there. She, too, is in love and, thankfully, it's with me.

We've got a lot to discuss and this is probably only going to make our time apart that much more difficult, but I know it will be worth it.

 

And on Page 69, there was happiness. Yes, I have the mind of a 12-year-old.

Thanks for the story BP. Made me smile.

 

Funny thing is, Gomer, I noticed and thought the same thing.

 

Sounds awesome, pern.

 

Thanks, KY, and it really is ... I hate to sound corny, but she's really changed the way I look at the world.

Stuff I never would have never noticed before makes me think of her. Songs on the radio suddenly sound like they're written about us (I know, I know, here's my man card).

I've just never fallen for anyone the way I fell for her. We talked about our future together tonight (OK, last night for most of you) and where before I might have tried to push away, it can't come fast enough for me right now.

After past experiences, I had told myself to avoid any girl recently getting out of a deep relationship. Most definitely avoid women who have had a child and stay away from long-distance relationships. Those were "rules" I followed. It's part of the reason that I dated a lot of younger women - a 23-year-old was less likely to have serious baggage than a 30-year-old.

Nicole made me throw every one of those rules out the window. She's been divorced for six months (since it was finalized, though I guess the initial proceedings were nine months ago). She has a 3-year-old. And she lives 5,000 miles away. But that's how special she is.

Keep your fingers crossed for me, SportsJournalists.com.

And shit, if my degenerate ass can find someone like this, there's hope for everyone.

 

Magic and bigpern, I'm glad things are going so well for the two of you and your partners - many congrats!!!

The distance issue is of particular fascination to me. Even more so since I've been reading in the Toronto Star about a reporter who is leaving - chucking everything, in fact - to go to France with a guy she just met and with whom she spent nine days this summer. She wonders if she's crazy in love, or just crazy.

http://www.thestar.com/living/article/696200

http://www.thestar.com/living/article/699398

And so I want to know.......how far would you go for love?

 

When you start breaking your own rules it is either a very good sign or you are in deep shit. Then again, any relationship worth having is worth risking landing in the deep shit.

I broke a few of mine for Mrs. OOP. Here's hoping the breaking of rules works out as well for you as it did for me. The long-distance thing brings back a few fond memories.

 

Rules were made to be broken, especially when the rules were made out of frustration from a previous relationship. If you set too many rules, you'll probably miss that perfect person or experience.

Big Pern and Magic, good luck with your ladies.