SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

Seconded, and fixed to apply to me.

 

The girl I posted about was my supposed best friend throughout high school. And then she met her husband, who I've known since we were in the same kindergarten class. They never hung out, at least that I know of, during high school. He had pretty much no idea she even existed because they are from different worlds -- he's pretty well off because of family money, and she's more low- to mid-upper class.

I have no idea what prompted her to tell me that, given she had been married three years at this point. I wanted to punch a wall when she told me. I didn't talk to her until Christmas that year, and hardly talked to her husband because I didn't want him to hear that from me.

I found out today through the grapevine that they may be divorcing soon. And I just have this hunch that she'll be calling me, trying to rekindle a flame that burned out a long time ago.

 

I don't know what good it did for her, if any. Knowing her, though, it probably ate at her for a good while.

 

Yeah. Unfortunately, many of us don't recognize those moments until the two people involved are heading in their separate directions.

And buck-dub's right. Many of us, myself for sure, need to hear and heed JJ's post. Do/say it because none of us are mind readers.

Now to go off and pretend there will be a perfect time...

 

Even when I've been with other women, there was always the question of what if?

What if, when her prom date stood her up, we had been each other's date? What if I told her how I felt in our last days of high school? What if she told me how she felt?

There's no telling what life would be like had I said something six years ago.

 

ducky, that is true. I just remember what it feels like to know you missed your moment with somebody who could have really been a great fit. I missed one and by the time I tried to get it back, things had changed for her and I was SOL. Took me a long time to get over that one. In fact, I don't think I really had until I met Mrs. OOP.

 

You can't wallow in the past, you need to look forward and quit thinking about what if. Who knows what you're missing out there while you're stuck in the past.

 

Yeah, I what if'd for way too many years until I took a chance on the current one and I'm really glad I didn't miss grabbing for that brass ring.

 

Agree on all counts with things being said in here. You should cut to the chase early so neither person gets hurt if they're looking for something the other isn't.

 

Exactly.

Today is a beautiful day. Enjoy today.

 

Today is cold. I'd rather stay in my warm house.

And, I'm not living in the past. What I said was how I felt a few years ago before she got married. I cut off most all ties with her when she told me she'd likely be mine if she wasn't with him.

 

Good for you.

If she does get divorced and comes calling, you could always bang her, then cut her off again.