SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

Games are bullshit.

If you have to play games during the course of a relationship (including the "how long should i wait to call/whatever" game at the beginning), that's crap. there are no games in the most worthwhile of relationships. playing a game isn't being true to yourself and, in turn, not showing your true self to the person you're attempting to date.

sorry, had to get the rant out since my roommate's in denial.

 

Ditto on everything you typed, in case you need to show your roommate that you're not the only one saying it.

I played games when I was younger. It was weird, since I've always been bluntly honest in everything. But I realized eventually that doing it was defeating the entire purpose of being with someone. The sooner the roommate, or the roommate's prospective SO, realizes it...the better off they'll both be.

 

Then no regrets. Seriously.

I just pulled up this thread and I'm not going to go back to the start. But the last couple of pages indicate to me what I have learned as I look back on my life: I don't regret anything I've ever said to a woman I've dated or wanted to date; I do regret the so-many things I never did say.

Kind of reminds me of an old Dr. Hook song. She's gone, and now I'm hearin' all the things I didn't say.

 

She is gone. Finally.

I told her how I felt -- it obviously did not go over well -- but I grew a pair and told her I felt it was best if we didn't talk again. She texted me six or seven times a few hours ago, but I ignored it and went on with what I was doing.

 

*standing ovation*

 

We don't agree on much OT but this is spot-on. Tell how you feel and let everything happen that's gonna happen. If it's right, it will.

 

Words I very rarely type: I also completely agree with OT on this one. Not that I didn't make an ass out of myself a time or two by saying what I want. Sometimes you sack up and she says no. But none of those moments stuck with me nearly as much as the ones I let pass without saying something.

 

Yeah, those moments -- the "slap your forehead after the fact because you realize later THAT was your chance. and you missed it" moments -- are the ones you'll remember longer than any guy or gal who says no, even in the cruelest of ways.

And even if you've tried talking yourself out of something because you're not his/her "type" or their "perfect match" (really, who has a perfect match? there are good matches and great matches, but is anything ever really perfect?), don't let your brain decide that for the other person.

As the "shitmydadsays" twitter account said the other day:

"That woman was sexy...Out of your league? Son. Let women figure out why they won't screw you, don't do it for them."

 

Amen.

 

Holy shit that is a great quote. And Magic and OOP, yes, we disagree on politics but I suspect other than that we'd agree on a whole lot of stuff.

 

Had one of the above moments the other day. Sitting on a bench at school with the IPOD jamming and this really cute girl walks by me, flashes me an absolutely gorgeous smile, and I said nothing.

Damn school has 25,000 people, but I am going to try and find her.