SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

Or a big...

JOHNSON, look at the size of that...

PECKER, I've never seen one that big...

[/Austin Powers'd]

 

Reminds me of a friend of mine from college. When I met her, she was dating a truly ugly guy. ONce they broke up, she went on and on about everything that was wrong with him. Finally, I asked her why she was with him in the first place. She told me it was because he was good in bed. I just loved the honesty.

I still think it can be difficult to predict what another person will find attractive. It is still better to risk rejection than to just assume the other person wouldn't be interested and possibly miss out on something wonderful.

 

I think it's probably healthier to secretly pine for a person for decades, never revealing yourself, never risking rejection.
It's healthier for your emotional development.

 

And how.

 

re: Just ask when interested

It was a more-or-less open secret that Mrs. Stain was interested in me for a couple of years when we were just friends, but whenever she'd subtly hint, I'd subtly hint back that I wasn't interested and would rather her not push it. (Not as direct as I could have been, but I was young).

One summer, my thoughts started to change on that front, especially when we spent some time apart and I realized just how much I missed her.

After a few weeks' thought, I called her up to tell her the good news that I was finally ready to reciprocate the interest. I expected quite the reaction and was on a little bit of an ego trip.

Instead, I got a "I don't know, let me think about it." I didn't get an answer for a month before I finally got the date.

 

At least you had a happy ending, Rick, but it's still a good lesson.

It puts me in mind of the old country song "Don't Cry Joni" by Conway Twitty, in which the singer decides too late to reciprocate the interest, finding to his sorrow that the girl has instead married his former best friend.

 

Good news baby, I finally think you are worth dating.

Hahah, sounds awful dude, but it seams like it worked out.

 

Confidence is the most important thing. (And KY, if I can give you some unsolicited advice, work on yourself. Be happy and confident. Then approach women from a position of confidence.)

Every guy who's ever thought a girl was out of his league only to later find she's dating someone who's poor & shlubby just like you, knows that no woman is out of his league.

I used to think that way too, but after seeing enough idiots dating beautiful, successful women, I got the courage to just start talking to girls -- and asking them for their phone numbers and asking them out.

There's so many dopes out there who don't know how to talk to a girl and don't know how to ask a girl out on a proper date (over the phone, not by text) that if you play your cards right, you can get dates.

Now maybe nothing will come of it, but once you get used too it, it becomes easier and easier. And you'll find a girl you want to date who wants to date you back.

A couple of years ago, I would have looked at my current girlfriend from a across the room, told my friends how beautiful she was & never talked to her.

She's way out of my league. When we go out, I don't see a better looking girl. And we've been together over a year.

Talk to girls you want to date. Treat them well, and see what happens.

 

Hahah ... winner.

 

Good advice. We sense fear.

 

Which is exactly why it is important to believe that no one is out of your league.

 

Look, you want to keep believing that because it makes you feel better about you, then go right ahead.