SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

LOL. Well, to be honest, I'm basing that more on idealism than personal experience.

 

I'd say it's always better to know what the expectations are.
I'm certainly no expert, but I was recently approached for advice about the subject, and that's the biggest tidbit I could come up with.

 

I think that if you wanted to date her, then your attitude from the first paragraph I quoted is the problem. You gave her the signal that you wanted to be friends, and once you're friends, I've found that women are much more reluctant to want to pursue a relationship. This isn't the case in every situation, but I think a first impression is really important in dating. I don't think it's "rushing" to ask out a person you find attractive the first or second time you meet them, and I'd argue that anything more creates a lot of ambiguity.

And regarding the second paragraph, if you actually want to be friends with her, don't give her that spiel. It'll either make things weird and freak her out a bit, or she'll be nice and tell you she doesn't want a relationship. I definitely agree with Double J - By her actions, she has made it abundantly clear how she thinks of you, and unfortunately, it is not sexy times.

 

I've been at my current stop since August, but haven't met anyone because despite being a reporter for a living, initiating conversations with the opposite sex isn't my forte.

That all ends late on Saturday night, with a few drinks. Don't know if I'd define it as a date per se, but it beats the hell out of catching up with the shows on my DVR.

Good, bad or indifferent, I'll be interested to see what happens.

 

Off-topic: Has there ever been anyone under the age of 35 who didn't consider their sense of humor dry and sarcastic?

(I'm as guilty as anyone)

 

I prefer to think of mine as more deadpan than anything else.

 

I was back-burnered in favor of Illini-Northwestern tix. Not a promising sign. If the raincheck falls through, consider me boned... but not in a good way.

 

I never thought about it until some guy told me mine went right past dry to parched.