SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

Little late to the thread, but I just was in a LDR which flamed out. I think I only really had a rough time with it for one or two days after I knew it was apparent this thing was over. We talked a few times after things started going south and awkwardly found some closure.

I think it was Grandma who had a good line about knowing who the one was, and I honestly thought I had a moment with this girl. We talked about a future together. Children came up, but our differences (which were many) led to a sharp demise. We had the chemistry, but not much else.

In the past, I would isolate myself for about a month and wallow in depression after a relationship ended, but I didn't feel like that this time. So, I just manned up and set up a friendly meeting with some woman I had a vague interest in on another message board I frequent. She was only three hours away, I was going to be in her town visiting relatives and I just needed some companionship. So why not?

Boy, did it help. Turns out she hadn't been out in months (a recent divorcee) and the "date" lasted six hours. I don't know if we'll go out again and I don't know if it will ever develop into a romantic relationship, but it felt good to just have fun again.

Another thing which has helped me greatly is just writing about how I feel. Whether it's on a message board or dumping it off on some understanding stranger on the net, it has felt good to let go of those feelings.

Now I still think about the other woman and have rough spots, but I don't feel totally emotionally crippled. Knowing I'm not really alone has made a world of difference.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

This has the potential to be a terrific thread.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

Call her. Make a date. Keep it short.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

Yeah, and if she doesn't answer, leave a message that details her shortcomings and potential mental issues.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

It worked for Costanza.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

I was talking about Dmitri the Lover...I believe I posted the link earlier on this thread.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

I suppose I ought to go back and read the previous pages. Do'eth!

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

So the Anti-Scott Van Pelt.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

I went the Pat O'Brien route instead.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

Make sure to eat an apple during the call.

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

This is a great thread. Granny has some terrific advice. It's easier said (and read) than done, but sometimes you just need to hear (or read) things like that....kind of a signal to get off your sorry ass and make your own life better if that's what you want. Hey, things could pretty much always be worse, right?

I can also relate to what NoOne says about getting back in circulation and just having fun without feeling the pressure to leap right back into another relationship (sometimes known as "from the frying pan into the fire"). The first girl I dated after my marriage broke up, well, I knew it wasn't gonna last, but it was still nice to feel like I was wanted.....it did wonders in terms of giving me some confidence back.

That said, I'm still looking for Ms. Right. Sometimes I'm at a loss as to what certain women want, since what they say and what they do often don't mesh, but I try to take it all in stride. When it's meant to happen, I guess it'll happen. I hope, that is!!

 

Re: SJ dating Nation, I could use some input.

I never worried what the other party wanted. Only worried about what I wanted and if they meshed, like The Grandpa did, then as they used to say, "Whoop, there it is." (Do you kids still say that?)

You're right, however. Easier said (and read) then done.