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PeteyPirate · Aug 13, 2008

Dont' tell her you love her. SHOW her you love her:

Bruce Leroy · Aug 13, 2008

FirstDownPirates said:

Dont' tell her you love her. SHOW her you love her:

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Clearly the best advice yet.

Flash · Aug 13, 2008

The Backyardigan said:

mustangj17 said:

The Backyardigan said:

here are a couple questions for everyone:

When do you know you love someone? When is the right time to say it?

I've been dating a girl for six weeks now, and it has been probably the best six weeks of my life. She's funny, beautiful, caring and lets me be myself. We are in a long-distance thing (2 hours away), but we have been on four dates (3 of which were almost 24 hours each). We talk on the phone for about 2 hours every night, and have been doing that since we first connected. We've shared secrets, laughed, and told each other our flaws as well as our hopes and dreams.

We've already talked a lot about the future, and while there are a lot of obstacles (we both have kids), we are both very optimistic. The word "love" has popped in my head for the last week or two, and I think I'll probably say those three magic words the next time I see her in person.

Am I nuts?
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Hold off and wait it out. The longer you wait the less chance you have of her thinking you are crazy. Besides if things are that good, you waiting to drop the L bomb for a bit shouldn't matter.
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I definitely see the logic in that. My only argument for doing it sooner is that we have had a very open relationship, and aren't afraid to talk about big things. (like, we have already figured out if everything works out who moves where, and we've even dabbled in some wedding ideas).

I just don't want to be the guy who is afraid to express himself. Shit, it is like it is bottled up in me right now, and I always want her to know how I feel. I've already told her I loved spending time with her, but I think there is a lot more going on than that.
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Mind if I ask your age? That can make a difference ...

Wonderlic · Aug 13, 2008

Bruce Leroy said:

FirstDownPirates said:

Dont' tell her you love her. SHOW her you love her:

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Clearly the best advice yet.
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That is fucking priceless.

The Backyardigan · Aug 13, 2008

Flash said:

The Backyardigan said:

mustangj17 said:

The Backyardigan said:

here are a couple questions for everyone:

When do you know you love someone? When is the right time to say it?

I've been dating a girl for six weeks now, and it has been probably the best six weeks of my life. She's funny, beautiful, caring and lets me be myself. We are in a long-distance thing (2 hours away), but we have been on four dates (3 of which were almost 24 hours each). We talk on the phone for about 2 hours every night, and have been doing that since we first connected. We've shared secrets, laughed, and told each other our flaws as well as our hopes and dreams.

We've already talked a lot about the future, and while there are a lot of obstacles (we both have kids), we are both very optimistic. The word "love" has popped in my head for the last week or two, and I think I'll probably say those three magic words the next time I see her in person.

Am I nuts?
Click to expand...

Hold off and wait it out. The longer you wait the less chance you have of her thinking you are crazy. Besides if things are that good, you waiting to drop the L bomb for a bit shouldn't matter.
Click to expand...

I definitely see the logic in that. My only argument for doing it sooner is that we have had a very open relationship, and aren't afraid to talk about big things. (like, we have already figured out if everything works out who moves where, and we've even dabbled in some wedding ideas).

I just don't want to be the guy who is afraid to express himself. Shit, it is like it is bottled up in me right now, and I always want her to know how I feel. I've already told her I loved spending time with her, but I think there is a lot more going on than that.
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Mind if I ask your age? That can make a difference ...
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Well, when my dad took me to my first Reds game as a kid, Pete Rose had just signed with the Phillies, so I am old enough I guess. That's what makes all of this different - it is not like I am a 20-year old who isn't really all that experienced in love. (my apologies to those that age). This whole thing really caught me off-guard. I had just signed up for six months on an online dating site, and then we went out a few weeks later.

But I know I am happy because it is her, not just because I am in a relationship. I am positive of that. I've never laughed so much with anyone. We never run out of things to say, and she's even seen my bad Yoda and Miyagi impressions and still wants to go out with me.

But there's more to it than that. She's told me very private things, and I have told her too, and when we are together at night I can't imagine being anywhere else. She looks at me, and the rest of the world stops. I'm not thinking marriage yet (at least not for a while), but I know these feelings aren't just because of a pretty face. She truly lets me be me, and she's pretty much herself too. We trust each other, and we really can talk about anything. And, we both really, really enjoy each other's company. She has told me all of this, and I even have a well-placed source (her best friend) who backs that up too.

I have a feeling once the words come out I'll ramble more than Lloyd did when he asked out Diane in Say Anything. But they will come from my heart when that time comes.

The Backyardigan · Aug 13, 2008

FirstDownPirates said:

Dont' tell her you love her. SHOW her you love her:

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That is pretty damn funny. She would laugh, because we've referenced that song before.

Flash · Aug 13, 2008

The Backyardigan said:

Flash said:

The Backyardigan said:

mustangj17 said:

The Backyardigan said:

here are a couple questions for everyone:

When do you know you love someone? When is the right time to say it?

I've been dating a girl for six weeks now, and it has been probably the best six weeks of my life. She's funny, beautiful, caring and lets me be myself. We are in a long-distance thing (2 hours away), but we have been on four dates (3 of which were almost 24 hours each). We talk on the phone for about 2 hours every night, and have been doing that since we first connected. We've shared secrets, laughed, and told each other our flaws as well as our hopes and dreams.

We've already talked a lot about the future, and while there are a lot of obstacles (we both have kids), we are both very optimistic. The word "love" has popped in my head for the last week or two, and I think I'll probably say those three magic words the next time I see her in person.

Am I nuts?
Click to expand...

Hold off and wait it out. The longer you wait the less chance you have of her thinking you are crazy. Besides if things are that good, you waiting to drop the L bomb for a bit shouldn't matter.
Click to expand...

I definitely see the logic in that. My only argument for doing it sooner is that we have had a very open relationship, and aren't afraid to talk about big things. (like, we have already figured out if everything works out who moves where, and we've even dabbled in some wedding ideas).

I just don't want to be the guy who is afraid to express himself. Shit, it is like it is bottled up in me right now, and I always want her to know how I feel. I've already told her I loved spending time with her, but I think there is a lot more going on than that.
Click to expand...

Mind if I ask your age? That can make a difference ...
Click to expand...

Well, when my dad took me to my first Reds game as a kid, Pete Rose had just signed with the Phillies, so I am old enough I guess. That's what makes all of this different - it is not like I am a 20-year old who isn't really all that experienced in love. (my apologies to those that age). This whole thing really caught me off-guard. I had just signed up for six months on an online dating site, and then we went out a few weeks later.

But I know I am happy because it is her, not just because I am in a relationship. I am positive of that. I've never laughed so much with anyone. We never run out of things to say, and she's even seen my bad Yoda and Miyagi impressions and still wants to go out with me.

But there's more to it than that. She's told me very private things, and I have told her too, and when we are together at night I can't imagine being anywhere else. She looks at me, and the rest of the world stops. I'm not thinking marriage yet (at least not for a while), but I know these feelings aren't just because of a pretty face. She truly lets me be me, and she's pretty much herself too. We trust each other, and we really can talk about anything. And, we both really, really enjoy each other's company. She has told me all of this, and I even have a well-placed source (her best friend) who backs that up too.

I have a feeling once the words come out I'll ramble more than Lloyd did when he asked out Diane in Say Anything. But they will come from my heart when that time comes.
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OK ... I'm more comfortable with the six-week thing then ... When you're older and a little bit more in tune with who you are and what you want in a mate, things can all come together nicely at a quick pace.
Good luck!

Songbird · Aug 13, 2008

KYSportsWriter said:

And KY, Trenton is in SE Michigan...next to Wyandotte.
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I'm disappointed.

I thought you were talking about that other place called Trenton.
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This is my Trenton.

mike311gd · Aug 13, 2008

The Trenton I know smells like a foot.

imjustagirl · Aug 13, 2008

That could be either.

Songbird · Aug 13, 2008

She's right, Mike.

mike311gd · Aug 13, 2008

I'll take your words for it.

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