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sportschick · Oct 3, 2008

Trey Beamon said:

Your abs probably weren't cut enough for her. [/bad Men's Health joke]
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Ok, JDV

Madhavok · Oct 3, 2008

imjustagirl said:

Mad:

There are two probably explanations:

1.) She's nervous too.
2.) She's not feeling you.

Only way to find out: Ask her out. Even in a group setting. Just something.
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Here's the thing, I really don't got out of my way to strike a conversation or anything for that matter. Just the usual, 'Hey, what's up' as I walk by to catch the games on a Saturday for a quick minute. I really don't stop for a second and just have a conversation with her. I'm like this with all girls and I've been told numerous times, 'a girl's not going to come to me, so get used to going to her'.
I guess I should be a bit more social then ?

KYSportsWriter · Oct 3, 2008

IJAG, you have not steered me in the wrong direction. And I thank you for that. You opened my eyes in both instances to something that was never gonna happen.

And after dating the most recent ex, I'm glad you were there to give me a swift kick in the hind quarters.

imjustagirl · Oct 3, 2008

Good suggestion.

pallister · Oct 3, 2008

Thing is, we've all done terrible things, IJAG, and hopefully, we've all learned from them, moved on and become much better people. Our past just helps prepare us for our future (and those who ignore the past are doomed to repeat it, etc.
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Those who ignore the past are doomed to repeat it
while those who live there can't rise up to meet it

imjustagirl · Oct 3, 2008

SO GET THE FUCK OUT OF THE PAST.

Madhavok · Oct 3, 2008

Good suggestion.

mike311gd · Oct 3, 2008

Being cheated on is underrated.

KYSportsWriter · Oct 3, 2008

So's your face.

... Dammit, that makes no sense!

Trey Beamon · Oct 3, 2008

mike311gd said:

Being cheated on is underrated.
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I'd rather be a born again virgin, mikey.

Rumpleforeskin · Oct 3, 2008

Trey Beamon said:

This happened to me recently:

I was seeing a girl and things were going great. We had the same interests, she didn't mind my crazy work schedule and wasn't offended by the "C" word. Rather, she made an effort to use it in everyday conversion.

Add that fact she was drop dead gorgeous, and I couldn't be happier.

But about a week and a half ago, she added some dude as a Facebook friend and immediately dropped him into her top friends. I was curious and asked who he was. She said a cousin and, naturally, I went with it.

Then, almost out of the blue, she started getting flaky. Not returning texts or phone calls. Saying she was too busy to hang out, even for a quick lunch or an hour at my apartment.

Now she's dating the guy, which I would've been OK with had she told the truth. Being someone who's a bit behind the dating curve for 28, I'm just wondering why people can't be honest.

I mean, what's the point of lying? I just don't get it ... and never will.
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The first sign had to be when she started to act flaky. Instead of still calling and texting, you should have just cut her out completely. Maybe a call here or a text there, but nothing serious. If she wanted to make the effort, she would. Hopefully you moved on and have begun talking with other women and hopefully things will look up for you soon.

Madhavok said:

So here's a question to IJAG or basically anyone who cares to type a reply based on personal experience or something they saw in a movie or read in Cosmo or Men's Heatlh:

I usually have no trouble approaching a woman and making the move, getting her engaged in the conversation, slight acts of flirting (nothing major), just to get a feel of what level we're on. Problem is, with these women, it's usually happening where we share a common interest: summer slow pitch softball team, work at the same place, friend of a friend blah blah.

However, with this one, the one who comes in and out of my mind during the day sometimes, I can't for the life of me get in the zone. I've tried to be witty, usually very blunt or sarcastic and it works, but nothing progresses for some reason. I'm partly to blame, probably mainly to blame actually. The opportunity is there as I see her probably three times a day at the hotel (if I'm there), but I just hate doing this sort of thing on the clock. I live in a pretty damn small county and the odds of seeing her at City Market or the post office has got to be in favor, but alas, it hasn't.

Wow did I really just type this out.
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Approach her like any other woman you would. What makes her different than the others you've had a connection with, such as; softball team, hotel, work, etc? I bet you can find a common interest with this one to strike up a conversation when you see her next.

mike311gd · Oct 3, 2008

KYSportsWriter said:

So's your face.

... Dammit, that makes no sense!
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So's your face always makes sense.

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