The Internet dating world is a cesspool

Had that thought. But there were positive signs in the days following the date, and we were in the process of planning another meeting, and then she just wouldn't take my calls. Oh well. I lost, for now. Maybe I'll check in with her in a few weeks to see how it plays out.

 

I wouldn't bother. If she wants to, she'll reach out to you again. I wouldn't count on her doing that.

I also wouldn't say you lost. She sounds like a flake at best. Better to find out now before you develop a real emotional investment.

 

We'll see what happens. Not going to be aggressive about it. Back to the drawing board (again).

 

I met my last two ex fiancees on internet dating sites.

 

So do you fully endorse the concept?

 

I bet you'll meet your next ex-wife here.

 

Just signed up on OKCupid. We'll see how that goes. Tired of looking at the same women (who won't speak to me) on POF. Sure there is some crossover, but time to try something new.

 

It's fun for a little while.

 

I'd love to meet the blonde woman whose online "identity" on these dating website ads is Heyjude2222.

 

Actually, to me, it sounds like Date #2 with the other guy was the day or two after the first date with him, and after that, she decided. I wouldn't put the flake label on someone unless the stringing out is over a period of a couple weeks and/or three or more dates. (Normally, three is my cutoff; any more than that and I think it constitutes a relationship.)

Any dating is tough like that though; even if they hadn't met via online means, she could have went on a date with him and then the next night met a guy she clicked with better at the bar. (This happened to me in the past, although luckily, I was the guy at the bar.)

 

It all depends on the size/type of the town in which you live, but I had more success meeting women through meetup.com than I ever did on match (which I only tried briefly in grad school) and OKCupid (which I joined in the summer).

 

Yeah, I don't think she's a flake. It happens. Just bad timing, but she did tell me today that she really enjoyed my company, so we will attempt to be friends since she lives in my neighborhood and we have shared interests. Don't worry, I'm not planning to try to make a move on her ... I am mature enough to be friends with a woman without acting on those impulses. I am friends with plenty of women I have been interested in the past.