The Internet dating world is a cesspool

How does OKCupid/Match/eHarmony/PlentyOfFish compare to these cats?

http://www.stdfriends.com/

 

A buddy of mine just broke up with his girlfriend of two years. Apparently they weren't having a very physically-fulfilling relationship. I joked with him and told him to go on Plenty of Fish and let out some of his frustration.

Two days later, he texts me and says he met some sex-crazed gymnast and they ended up shacking up. I said, "That was fast. How'd you meet her, at a bar?" He says, "Well, technically. I met her on Plenty of Fish and she turned out to be a sex-crazed fiend. I got it and ran."

 

I do think you have to balance the fact that Match charges, whereas OkCupid doesn't. If you're willing to actually put a little money into a service, I think it increases the odds that you're actually going to go out on dates and what not. OkCupid, the vast majority of the users seem to be under 35, with the highest concentration in the 20 to 24 range.

 

You know that old saying about getting over somebody by getting under somebody else? Yeah, that should probably be POF's motto.

Not that I'm complaining. ;D

 

But with Match charging also comes snobbery - I know I'm not getting out of the batter's box with these women who post the $100K minimum income requirement.
OKC does offer a decent selection for those of us in the (in my case, well) over-35 arena, too. Met one very worthwhile PhD last week - let's just say that if we never go on an actual date, she's at least shown me where some attractive, eligible ladies (from 20something to 60something) might be found on a Friday night. (Hint: put on your dancing shoes.)

 

Isn't that a batter's box you don't want to be in then? Might as well be up front about it and not waste your time.

 

I'm likely vacating the Match batter's box next month - thank God I only signed on for three months. If the estranged Mrs. T. Is making Match work, God bless her.

 

Signed up on OKCupid a few weeks ago, and it pretty much sucks. It's matching me up with people I have very little in common with, and the search function is horrible. Or maybe I just haven't spent enough time figuring it out.

 

Don't depend on help from your OKC quiver - it's given me women from as far away as Pennsylvania and Ottawa, or who haven't been on since October. But I've gotten to like it. It comes up with some surprises - I have a breakfast date tomorrow with a woman I met on Match, but I have subsequently seen her OKC profile and her answers to some questions. Let's just say they reveal a different, and rather fascinating, side to her that would not have been revealed on Match.

 

haha, I had a brief foray on eHarmony, and I had a lot of overlapped people as well. One had completely different profiles on each - one made her seem like the Hipster Queen, while the other made her look like marriage material tomorrow. You can guess which profile adhered to which site.

 

Anyone want to set up a profile there for Doodah?

 

My buddy met his going-to-be-wife in a few weeks on Match, he's 24. Not my type, but she's wealthy and a year or two older and they're a good pair. I decided I'd try it for fun - I'm still fairly young and have/am still dating around plenty, but bar material isn't usually long-term.

The snobs don't bother me - you're going to get the ones looking for the Disney Prince all over, I get that. There's just a lot of flaky girls, I found. Not all girls are saints, and some (ones I know in real life) will tell you they just go out on first dates to get a free dinner or something. I know I'm not breaking news here, still. And to second someone else's story, I saw an ex-girlfriend on there and some other interesting people.

It's funny, as I type this, I'm wearing my pair of RF wireless headphones, and when my signal from my TV went off, I heard one of my neighbors on some phone sex hotline.