I assume you're familiar with Ty Seidule's Robert E Lee and Me?
Southerner, born in Virginia worshiping RE Lee, went on to spend 35 years in the army and two decades teaching history at West Point.
He had some interesting arguments about post-war feelings. It's great that countrymen got along better and shook hands at Gettysburg. There's no shortage of similar stories about Americans and Japanese, or Americans and Germans, or Americans and Vietnamese. There's probably a lot to be learned from what the old men who were there consider important in their waning days.
But former-Union officers also fought hard to keep former-Confederate officers from having any memorial or anything else of note at West Point, for instance. That stuff, and most of the fort naming and whatnot, didn't start to creep in until they were long gone. Surely they shook some hands but it was never all peachy keen for those guys. It's easy to wave away as being 160 years ago, but man, it never ceases to amaze me how little I have to dig on Twitter or Facebook to realize it isn't. I'm sure I don't have to tell you that, considering where you live.
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