KevinmH9 said:
Just typing that title made me shiver. It's something I never wanted to have to do, nor I still want to do, but I'm up a river without a paddle. Recently, I got a new job and was just laid off on Tuesday. It's the hardest thing I've had to deal with in a long time. After being unemployed for several months, I found a job; and now, I'm in the dumps again. It's getting to the point where I may have to seek real, professional help for this because this depression has gotten me to an all-time low.
I've figured that this will help me out for a bit while I find a job. I don't imagine I'll need the 26 weeks worth of paychecks coming to me before I find a job, but at least it's there if first comes to worst.
I haven't even told my parents that I have been laid off yet, I guess the embarrassment of their son unable to hold a job is getting to me.
Has anyone ever filed for unemployment? I've done some research on it, but I'm not sure exactly how it works. Applying and everything seems easy, but I'm not sure how much I should expect in my mailbox each week.
I'm saying this as nicely as possible:
You need serious mental health counseling, not only because of your depression, but because you are seriously deluded from reality. Being laid off into unemployment is not a scarlet letter. heck yeah, it forking sucks. Your immediate future is up in the air unless you have months upon months of savings to live on and few to no bills to pay. But you are not the only person in this predicament right now. I'm right there with you, about to complete 12 straight weeks. And seriously, you honestly think your parents are going to be ashamed their son was laid off? Get a grip, dude. And yes, you'll be needing those 26 weeks. I wish I had a full 26 weeks, I have 16, and four left before applying for an extension (and/or starting unemployment from another state). I'm collecting unemployment from a cheap cost of living state and applying it in one of the most expensive locales in the nation. In my old state, I'd be living high off the hog. Now? I'm barely making it.
Applying for unemployment and starting the process of collecting is really not easy, but once you are in the system, it's pretty easy to keep the checks coming. When I first filed my initial claim last October (I've been laid off twice in a year), the state screwed up my application and, because of the sheer volume of people filing, they were unable to start paying me benefits for SIX WEEKS. Eventually, they sent me a few token (we're sorry) payments and I started my new job. Then, laid off again. But since I was already in the system and just re-activating my claim, I was able to start collecting right away.
Keep your head up. Quit worrying about whether your parents will be ashamed you "can't hold down a job" (they aren't, and they know you can hold down a job), start hitting the pavement, making phone calls, and doing everything you possibly can. Volunteer some time, etc. And when things DO work out for you, get yourself checked out. Seriously. It'll be for the best.