I lost another friend

[Smallpotatoes]

Here is another opportunity for Regan MacNeil and Jr. to pile on. This time, I won't even blame you (I guess this may take some of the fun out of this for you, but please, have at it). I totally deserve it.

Yesterday, on Facebook I posted a link about Eddie Money being diagnosed with esophageal cancer.

One of my high school friends replied with "Looks like he'll be getting two tickets to paradise."

I replied "If he could walk on water..."

And the riffs went on a little longer.

Eventually, this other friend chimes in, ripping me for making fun of someone with cancer. She reminded me that her sister (a childhood friend of mine) died of cancer a few years back. She called me an asshole, a loser and a piece of shirt.

Now, I really didn't look at what I was doing as "making fun of someone with cancer," however, I can understand why she felt that way. immediately I apologized. I told her she was right. That it was very thoughtless of me and while that was not my intention, I should have known better (after all, my mother died of cancer 4 1/2 months ago).

This was not some bullshirt "I'm sorry if you were offended," apology. I really regret doing this and feel that yes, I was an asshole for doing it. She did not accept the apology. That's her right and she blocked me.

Is there any way I could make this right or is the damage pretty much irreparable?

 

[DanOregon]

Just tell her you want to go back (go back) and do it all over, but you can't go back you know.

 

[Scout]

This is a safer place to be a deck than Facebook.

Time heals, but you are sort of forked with her, but Ronnie Spector will eventually get over it.

Whatever will be, will be.

 

[Evil ... Thy name is Orville Redenbacher!!]

You did all you can do.

Move on.

 

[Slacker]

John T. Reed just kicked a wall and hollered "SNOWFLAKES!!!"

 

[CD Boogie]

Here is another opportunity for Regan MacNeil and Jr. to pile on. This time, I won't even blame you (I guess this may take some of the fun out of this for you, but please, have at it). I totally deserve it.

Yesterday, on Facebook I posted a link about Eddie Money being diagnosed with esophageal cancer.

One of my high school friends replied with "Looks like he'll be getting two tickets to paradise."

I replied "If he could walk on water..."

And the riffs went on a little longer.

Eventually, this other friend chimes in, ripping me for making fun of someone with cancer. She reminded me that her sister (a childhood friend of mine) died of cancer a few years back. She called me an asshole, a loser and a piece of shirt.

Now, I really didn't look at what I was doing as "making fun of someone with cancer," however, I can understand why she felt that way. immediately I apologized. I told her she was right. That it was very thoughtless of me and while that was not my intention, I should have known better (after all, my mother died of cancer 4 1/2 months ago).

This was not some bullshirt "I'm sorry if you were offended," apology. I really regret doing this and feel that yes, I was an asshole for doing it. She did not accept the apology. That's her right and she blocked me.

Is there any way I could make this right or is the damage pretty much irreparable?

If you apologized, just let it go. You basically wrote on FB something that you and your closest friends might joke about, a sort of gallows humor. Ya can't please everyone. Sounds like she was looking for something to be offended by. If someone who is a friend of mine on FB says something inappropriate -- and for me to think so, you have to REALLY push it -- I'd be inclined to text them or IM them and tell them it's not a good look -- not eviscerate them from some holier than thou plateau in public.

 

[lakefront]

Here is another opportunity for Regan MacNeil and Jr. to pile on. This time, I won't even blame you (I guess this may take some of the fun out of this for you, but please, have at it). I totally deserve it.

Yesterday, on Facebook I posted a link about Eddie Money being diagnosed with esophageal cancer.

One of my high school friends replied with "Looks like he'll be getting two tickets to paradise."

I replied "If he could walk on water..."

And the riffs went on a little longer.

Eventually, this other friend chimes in, ripping me for making fun of someone with cancer. She reminded me that her sister (a childhood friend of mine) died of cancer a few years back. She called me an asshole, a loser and a piece of shirt.

Now, I really didn't look at what I was doing as "making fun of someone with cancer," however, I can understand why she felt that way. immediately I apologized. I told her she was right. That it was very thoughtless of me and while that was not my intention, I should have known better (after all, my mother died of cancer 4 1/2 months ago).

This was not some bullshirt "I'm sorry if you were offended," apology. I really regret doing this and feel that yes, I was an asshole for doing it. She did not accept the apology. That's her right and she blocked me.

Is there any way I could make this right or is the damage pretty much irreparable?

You made a sincere apology and she refused it. You already tried to "make it right".

 

[Regan MacNeil]

Just buy her the good, green transmissiony fluid.

 

[Chef2]

Just tell her you want to go back (go back) and do it all over, but you can't go back you know.

You magnificent son of a bench.
I bow in your general direction.

 

[Chef2]

Here is another opportunity for Regan MacNeil and Jr. to pile on. This time, I won't even blame you (I guess this may take some of the fun out of this for you, but please, have at it). I totally deserve it.

Yesterday, on Facebook I posted a link about Eddie Money being diagnosed with esophageal cancer.

One of my high school friends replied with "Looks like he'll be getting two tickets to paradise."

I replied "If he could walk on water..."

And the riffs went on a little longer.

Eventually, this other friend chimes in, ripping me for making fun of someone with cancer. She reminded me that her sister (a childhood friend of mine) died of cancer a few years back. She called me an asshole, a loser and a piece of shirt.

Now, I really didn't look at what I was doing as "making fun of someone with cancer," however, I can understand why she felt that way. immediately I apologized. I told her she was right. That it was very thoughtless of me and while that was not my intention, I should have known better (after all, my mother died of cancer 4 1/2 months ago).

This was not some bullshirt "I'm sorry if you were offended," apology. I really regret doing this and feel that yes, I was an asshole for doing it. She did not accept the apology. That's her right and she blocked me.

Is there any way I could make this right or is the damage pretty much irreparable?

How mad did you really get her?
Was she shakin?
Snappin her fingers?

 

[swingline]

Whoa (oh, oh-oh)

 

[forever_town]

You did everything you could do to try to make things right.

I didn't read the apology, so I'm just basing this on what you said here, but I think I'd at least forgive you if you showed sincerity.

One of the tricks about humor is knowing where the line is and knowing when to cross or to not cross it.