SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

[Rumpleforeskin]

It's shocking how well being honest works with women.

I am just quoting this post for the veracity of it.

 

[CUinthenewsroom]

OK, guys, I know being long-term married automatically disqualifies me in some of your eyes from having an opinion on this, but here goes:

This is the easy part.

You are supposed to be spending your time now going out to dinner, getting laid, going to the movies, getting laid, going out dancing and getting laid.

Every hour you are spending with someone who can't get their act together enough to manage that much is truly wasted.

You really don't want them to be the person who has your back when real life intrudes.

If anything, being married makes you more than qualified.

That being said, this is hardly the easy part (or, at the very least, it sure as heck isn't easy). With the hours journos work, meeting people is a bench. And meeting the right person, damn near impossible. I know I am at a loss.

 

[Petrie]

The other day I was joking around with one of the guys I work with about how I thought one of the girls here was rather attractive. So my buddy was talking to her and I guess my name came up ("Hey, Ross thinks you are hot" effin big mouth). She told him that I should ask her out sometime.

Feels a little 6th gradeish but whatever.

No, it becomes sixth-gradish if/when you send him to ask her out for you.

 

[RossLT]

The other day I was joking around with one of the guys I work with about how I thought one of the girls here was rather attractive. So my buddy was talking to her and I guess my name came up ("Hey, Ross thinks you are hot" effin big mouth). She told him that I should ask her out sometime.

Feels a little 6th gradeish but whatever.

No, it becomes sixth-gradish if/when you send him to ask her out for you.

I could just pass her a note.

 

[Petrie]

The other day I was joking around with one of the guys I work with about how I thought one of the girls here was rather attractive. So my buddy was talking to her and I guess my name came up ("Hey, Ross thinks you are hot" effin big mouth). She told him that I should ask her out sometime.

Feels a little 6th gradeish but whatever.

No, it becomes sixth-gradish if/when you send him to ask her out for you.

I could just pass her a note.

Better let me edit it first

 

[RossLT]

 

[Petrie]

 

[RossLT]

No to the note

or to me

 

[Madhavok]

Gotta love getting the, 'we're on different pages and I'm just not looking for a commitment right now'.

 

[mjp1542]

I don't know. I was thinking about this the other night and there's a good chance that part of the reason I'm shying away is because the last relationship I was in ended so badly that the only way I made it through it was because I had good friends there with me and a good therapist to prescribe me drugs so I could eat and sleep and function. Even though I've lived here in Kentucky for 10 months, I'm still not completely in my comfort zone and I don't have those close friends that I did.

I'm scared. Relationships suck when you overthink them, which I am really good at.

Wenders, you sound more than slightly apprehensive. That list doesn't sound like a very good list for a guy. Sounds like you have already made up your mind not to date him but you just haven't realized it yet.

Agreed. Have you told this guy about your frustrations, Wenders? Maybe he'll get a clue when he finds out his 'too cool for school' routine isn't having the desired effect.

Now I can't get him to call me back. Oh, and he never formally asked me out.

And before you guys tell me to ask HIM out, this is my thoughts on that: a really good friend of mine had a yardstick for this kind of thing: if he's a guy I can see myself with, I'll make the time for him and I'll actively try to make him interested.

I'm not sure I can see myself with him. So if he doesn't make any sort of concerted effort here, I'll just move on. But as of right now, he's not giving me any reason to clear out space in my life for him.

I'm confused, Wenders. You "met" him in a drive thru at McDonald's. You've never hung out. You're perturbed that he doesn't answer your questions straight-up. You can't see yourself with him. I just don't understand why you're even considering him. Is it a looks thing? Totally understandable if it is. But if you've gone this long and nobody has asked the other out and there are so many sirens going off ...

 

[AMacIsaac]

Gotta love getting the, 'we're on different pages and I'm just not looking for a commitment right now'.

She's met someone else. Sorry to be harsh, but most likely true.

 

[2muchcoffeeman]

As I'm reading this part of the thread, my iPod (plugged into the stereo) has cued up Heart's song "Heartless." ;D