SJ.COM All-purpose dating thread

[Rumpleforeskin]

The only problem with the "just say so" option is you put the person on the spot. Sometimes people don't act well under pressure and won't give a true answer.

 

[AMacIsaac]

Then that isn't someone I want to be with, is it?

I so look forward to your perspective on dating.

 

[mustangj17]

Dammit, buck, I almost choked on my subway sandwich when I read that.

How easily we forget how this thread started. A girl with a boyfriend met Mustang and gave him her number.

 

[Rumpleforeskin]

Then that isn't someone I want to be with, is it?

I so look forward to your perspective on dating.

Nope.

 

[outofplace]

Then that isn't someone I want to be with, is it?

Exactly right. It is easy to get so caught up in trying to figure out what works that you forget to do what works for you. I know that was one of my many problems when I was still swimming in the dating pool. Ok, actually it was more like treading water and trying not to drown, but you get the idea.

 

[ServeItUp]

Last time I went out on a date, before I ultimately waved the white flag, I told her I thought she was cool and hoped we'd get together again. Four days later, she went away for the weekend and hooked up with an old friend.

Years prior, there was this young lady I liked. One night I made spaghetti and brought it to her at work (cue Kevin Smith reference), and in previous months I'd make it known I wanted to spend time with her. A drink here, movie there, hockey game elsewhere. Never pushed it ahead, though, in hopes that my subtle approach would work and she'd get the hint. She's now married and expecting a kid with someone not named me, but still a very dear friend.

So that's a big no on the subtle approach, AND on the direct approach. Anyone who can find a middle ground gets props from me, but otherwise... fork it. Too much bullshirt.

 

[mike311gd]

Dammit, buck, I almost choked on my subway sandwich when I read that.

Gagging's a turn-off for me.

No worries, you're too young for me anyway. ;D

I'm "too" something for a lot of people. You get used to it after a while.

 

[mike311gd]

Last time I went out on a date, before I ultimately waved the white flag, I told her I thought she was cool and hoped we'd get together again. Four days later, she went away for the weekend and hooked up with an old friend.

Years prior, there was this young lady I liked. One night I made spaghetti and brought it to her at work (cue Kevin Smith reference), and in previous months I'd make it known I wanted to spend time with her. A drink here, movie there, hockey game elsewhere. Never pushed it ahead, though, in hopes that my subtle approach would work and she'd get the hint. She's now married and expecting a kid with someone not named me, but still a very dear friend.

So that's a big no on the subtle approach, AND on the direct approach. Anyone who can find a middle ground gets props from me, but otherwise... fork it. Too much bullshirt.

Should have sprung for the lasagna, dude. Works every time.

 

[mustangj17]

Last time I went out on a date, before I ultimately waved the white flag, I told her I thought she was cool and hoped we'd get together again. Four days later, she went away for the weekend and hooked up with an old friend.

Years prior, there was this young lady I liked. One night I made spaghetti and brought it to her at work (cue Kevin Smith reference), and in previous months I'd make it known I wanted to spend time with her. A drink here, movie there, hockey game elsewhere. Never pushed it ahead, though, in hopes that my subtle approach would work and she'd get the hint. She's now married and expecting a kid with someone not named me, but still a very dear friend.

So that's a big no on the subtle approach, AND on the direct approach. Anyone who can find a middle ground gets props from me, but otherwise... fork it. Too much bullshirt.

Should have sprung for the lasagna, dude. Works every time.

"You know, there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But you don't need to bring them spaghetti at work because, most of 'em will end up having someone elses baby."

 

[mike311gd]

Last time I went out on a date, before I ultimately waved the white flag, I told her I thought she was cool and hoped we'd get together again. Four days later, she went away for the weekend and hooked up with an old friend.

Years prior, there was this young lady I liked. One night I made spaghetti and brought it to her at work (cue Kevin Smith reference), and in previous months I'd make it known I wanted to spend time with her. A drink here, movie there, hockey game elsewhere. Never pushed it ahead, though, in hopes that my subtle approach would work and she'd get the hint. She's now married and expecting a kid with someone not named me, but still a very dear friend.

So that's a big no on the subtle approach, AND on the direct approach. Anyone who can find a middle ground gets props from me, but otherwise... fork it. Too much bullshirt.

Should have sprung for the lasagna, dude. Works every time.

"You know, there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But you don't need to bring them spaghetti at work because, most of 'em will end up having someone elses baby."

No one ad-libs in Kevin Smith's -- unless you're him or Ben Affleck, on occasion.

"Who's house? ..."

 

[Double J]

And I agree. Both sexes suck equally when it comes to dating. If everyone was just honest about everything (no games), dating would be a heck of a lot easier. Of course, if dating was easier, would the end result be as worth it?

Yes, it'd be worth it. Nothing worse than mind games when it comes to dating.

Just be honest -- start today. Gotta be honest with yourself, too, though. That's even harder than being honest with the other person.

There's nothing I hate more than mind games. One of the big turn-ons for me with the girl I like now is that she was extremely straightforward the first couple times we flirted and hung out in the same group.

I hear you. Mind games suck. Give me a straightforward girl who knows what she wants and doesn't want, and isn't afraid to say so.

 

[2muchcoffeeman]

And I agree. Both sexes suck equally when it comes to dating. If everyone was just honest about everything (no games), dating would be a heck of a lot easier. Of course, if dating was easier, would the end result be as worth it?

Yes, it'd be worth it. Nothing worse than mind games when it comes to dating.

Just be honest -- start today. Gotta be honest with yourself, too, though. That's even harder than being honest with the other person.

There's nothing I hate more than mind games. One of the big turn-ons for me with the girl I like now is that she was extremely straightforward the first couple times we flirted and hung out in the same group.

I hear you. Mind games suck. Give me a straightforward girl who knows what she wants and doesn't want, and isn't afraid to say so.

But that would take all the mystery out of it! :

And now I remember why I quit dating.